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Where does our assertiveness info come from?
alberti and evans
to be assertive positively is every bit as important as being assertive
critically
passive is ....

aggressive is...
not respecting yourself.

not respecting others.

We are anywhere on the continuum, but usu. withing a certain zone on the continum.
4 components every assertive thing should have
E=empathy statement
D=non-blaming description of another's behavior
I= an "I" message
A= an action statement

I message
success of the assertiveness is not based on the action of the other person, it is based on
whether you are respecting yourself and your feelings.
4 myths that contribute to people being assertive
Myth of bitchiness---it is not OK to ask for what you need

Myth of obligation (If I give to the heart fund I can cure heart disease-I must say yes)

Myth of modesty (oh- it was nothing)

Myth of the good friend (if you are really my good friend, I don't have to say what I want, YOU SHOULD KNOW)
EDIA is...
Empathy
Description
I message
Action statement
if you don't have an empathy statement, you may say...
"I doubt you realize this," or "I know you don't do this on purpose."