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Where does our assertiveness info come from?
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alberti and evans
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to be assertive positively is every bit as important as being assertive
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critically
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passive is ....
aggressive is... |
not respecting yourself.
not respecting others. We are anywhere on the continuum, but usu. withing a certain zone on the continum. |
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4 components every assertive thing should have
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E=empathy statement
D=non-blaming description of another's behavior I= an "I" message A= an action statement I message |
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success of the assertiveness is not based on the action of the other person, it is based on
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whether you are respecting yourself and your feelings.
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4 myths that contribute to people being assertive
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Myth of bitchiness---it is not OK to ask for what you need
Myth of obligation (If I give to the heart fund I can cure heart disease-I must say yes) Myth of modesty (oh- it was nothing) Myth of the good friend (if you are really my good friend, I don't have to say what I want, YOU SHOULD KNOW) |
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EDIA is...
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Empathy
Description I message Action statement |
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if you don't have an empathy statement, you may say...
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"I doubt you realize this," or "I know you don't do this on purpose."
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