Csl - Pastor As Counselor

Front 1

Fritz 3 books to study

Back 1

○ Scripture
○ Flock
○ Self
○ Culture - Hartung adds a fourth

Front 2

Vulnerabilities of the church worker

Back 2

• Spiritual Warfare
• Burnout
• Stress
• Secondary Traumatic Stress

Front 3

Johari Window model

Back 3

-Public area
-Hidden Area (hidden to me, not by me)
-Private Area
-Unknown area

Front 4

Three responses to bids

Back 4

○ Turning toward
○ Turn against
○ Turn away

Front 5

The Family’s Philosophy of Emotion

Back 5

-Coaching
-Dismissing
-Disapproving
-Laissez-Faire

Front 6

Cycle of Involvement (of drugs and alcohol)

Back 6

1. Non-Use
2. Use
3. Abuse
4. Addiction

Front 7

Levels of use of drugs and alcohol

Back 7

1. Experimental
2. Occasional
3. Recreational
4. Social
5. Regular
6. Relief

Front 8

Four ways out of addiction

Back 8

○ Death
○ Intervention/Recovery (15%)
○ Incarcerated
○ Institutionalized (Mental Health Facility)

Front 9

The model steps

Back 9

-Explore
-transition
-Resolve
-Actions

Front 10

Explore skills

Back 10

-Listening
-Attending
-Following
-Reflecting (content and feeling)

Front 11

Transition Procedures

Back 11

-State the problem (then pause and reflect)
-State the Goal (then pasue and reflect)
-Ask what's been thought of or done (then pause and reflect)
-Reflect
-Proceed to resolve stage

Front 12

Resolve

Back 12

Interactive Speaking
-Speak
-Check
-Reflect
-Discuss (speak, check, reflect)

Front 13

3 fold way to deliver assertions/recommendations

Back 13

-BEHAVIOR DESCRIPTION (Your assertion or recommendation)
-DISCLOSURE OF FEELING (How they will react to the assertion)
-TANGIBLE EFFECT (Why you are making the assertion or recommendation - The benefit to them)

Front 14

Possible assertions

Back 14

○ RECOMMENDATIONS
○ REFERRAL
○ SCRIPTURE
○ PRAYER
○ Hartung does not pray at the beginning of the session but rather at the end… unless it is a very general prayer at the beginning
○ When you pray at the end of a session: Have your prayer be begun by the parishioner.
○ CONFESSION/ABSOLUTION
○ REASSURANCE
○ You are not God so don’t promise things that are not true or out of your control
○ Don't say "It will work itself out"
○ Restate the promises of God
○ COVENANTS
○ Laying on of hands
○ Use of anointing oil (James 5:14)

Front 15

Referrals

Back 15

-Psychiatrist (always an MD) - Need for meds
-Psychologist (Usually a doctoral degree Ph. D/Psy. D.)
-Social Worker (MSW or BSW)
-Pastoral Counselor (No standard degrees)
-Marriage and Family Counselors
-Certified Counselors

Front 16

Develop key referral contact resources

Back 16

○ Identify those with whom you can and will work
○ Visit/interview them
○ Visit agencies
○ Make personal contact

Front 17

Questions to ask contacts

Back 17

○ Values and approach
○ Areas of special expertise
○ Professional Associations/Licensure/Managed Care Networks
○ Continuing Education/Consultation/Supervision
○ Personal therapy experience in the therapy being practiced.
○ Experience as a full-time counselor
○ Under what conditions will you refer to me?

Front 18

Conflict intensity scale

Back 18

○ Lack of conflict
○ Low-grade conflict
○ A problem to be solved**
○ Debate
○ Win-Lose competition
○ Fight/Flight
○ Search and destroy
○ Annihilation

Front 19

Conflict Resolution Goal

Back 19

Reduce stress:
-To understand the other’s point of view.
-To help the other understand your point of view.
-To define areas of agreement and disagreement.
-To be able to talk about differences of opinion with less emotionality.
-To avoid extreme positions.
-To be open to new data and perhaps learn something.
-To set the stage for solving problems.

Front 20

The cooperative pathway

Back 20

* Expression of initial positions
* Exploration of underlying concerns
* Selection of mutually satisfying solutions

Front 21

Three step process for Spiritual Formation

Back 21

-Be aware
-Understand: No longer just noticing your thoughts/actions/beliefs to trying to understand their cause ,effect and meaning
-Take Action

Front 22

Innervoices

Back 22

○ The voice of God
○ The voice of our human wounds, addictions and sin.
○ The voice of the world.

Front 23

Homeostasis

Back 23

a state of normalcy/balance

Front 24

Anxiety

Back 24

When there is a shift or a change

Front 25

What is a single word to describe the model?

Back 25

Incarnational

Front 26

To move from hidden to others to known by others you need what?

Back 26

self-disclosure

Front 27

The skill needed to move from hidden to self to known to self is what?

Back 27

openness to feedback / feedback solicitation

Front 28

Definition of a covenant

Back 28

promises that are not enforceable.

Front 29

What is the difference between use and abuse?

Back 29

harm

Front 30

Why do people become addicted?

Back 30

Because the brain is changed by substances and habits

Front 31

Definition of addiction

Back 31

The prolonged and continued use of substances despite the presence of problems associated with use.

Front 32

Keys to office arrangement

Back 32

-You should not sit between them and the door
-4 equal chairs (no throne for you)
-Furniture that is moveable
-No couches
-Keep the door closed, but it needs a window
-Have something simple but meaningful to remind you that Christ is present
-Don;t have chairs that spin or roll around
-Do not have a desk between you and them
-The back of your monitor should not be towards the door
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Front 33

Definition of "position"

Back 33

a statement of what one wants - You don’t want to fight over positions… but you want to discuss the real concern

Front 34

Frtiz's three intelligences

Back 34

-head
-heart
-context