Communications Test 3

Front 1

Self Disclosure

Back 1

The revealing information about your value, beliefs, desires to someone else. you cannot have an intimate relationship without disclosure

Front 2

Social Penetration Theory

Back 2

The depth and bredth of your disclosure

Front 3

Primary Attractions

Back 3

Proximity : Being physically near the person often
Physical Appearance : How they present themselves

Front 4

How Physical Appearance Influences Us?

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Halo Effect : Belief that attractive people also possess a number of other desirable characteristics
Social Lives : Who we approach, who approaches us, how often we go out
Matching : Finding someone who is about as attractive as you are

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Long Term Attraction

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Similarities: It engages conversation
Reward : Receive some sort of incentive (money, goods, characteristics)
Complementaries : Someone that has characteristics that match ours they provide something we lack

Front 6

SVR Theory // Stimulus, Value, Role theory

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We gain three types of information about a partner which influence the development of relationships
Stimulus : Physical attributes
Value : Similarties in attitude and beliefs
Role : Deeper similarities that are usually developed as the relationship develops

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Fatal Attraction

Back 7

Qualities that initially attracted us to someone, now seems annoying and obnoxious

Front 8

Knapps Model Of Relational Development : Escalating Stages (Coming Together)

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A series of steps that shape a relationship

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Initiating Stage

Back 9

- Short Stage
-Introduce Yourself
- "Helo, nice to meet you"
- Interactions are concerned with makign favorable impressions on one another
- As we scan the person, we consider our own stereotypes any prior knowledge of the others reputation, what we expect, etc
- We're asking if this person is attractive or unattracttive

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Experimenting Stage

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- Asking questions
- Finding out about the other person
- "what do you do?" build similarities
- Norm that says "If yout ell me your hometown, i'll tell you mine"
- Like an audition
- This is where similarities are found
- Many relationships dont go beyond
- People in established relationships spend alot of time in this stage

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Intensifying Stage

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- Honeymoon stages
- Strengthening interpersonal development
Increased self disclosure
- Revealing more personal information
- SPend mroe time together (Shared activities)
- Using the terms "we" and "us"
- "I think I love you" "I really like you"

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Integration Stages

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- Interdependence
- Start sharing a language
- Others see you as a pair
- "we are like one person" "I fell so much a part of you"

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Bonding Stage

Back 13

- Look to this person for assistance with self-concept
- Sometimes a public commitment
- Few relationships reach this stage

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De-Escalation Stages (Coming Apart)

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Front 15

Differentiating Stages

Back 15

- Sign of stress in a relationship
- Differences may be interests and attitudes
- Physical contact decreases
- Start thinking in terms of "we" and "us"
- Can try to save the relationship here
- Warning signs that couples need to discuss issues
- "I just dont understand you"

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Circumscribing Stage

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- Becoming increasingly distant
- Quality and quantity of communication decreases
- Question their relationship here
- Ignore issues
- "Dont ask me about that" "Let's not talk about that anymore"

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Stagnating Stages

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- "Hollow shell of its former-self"
- Relationship isnt moving anymore
- Not so much of a couple anymore
- Messages of the couple reflect those of strangers
- Feel trapped
- People begin to notice

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Avoiding

Back 18

- Direct or indirect avoidance
- Dont discuss anything at all
- "Sorry im real busy, I cant see you"
- Possibility of lowered self concept when being ignored

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Terminating Stage

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- Divorce, breakup
- Possible surface talking

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Social Exchange Theory

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Evaluating your relationship by comparing the rewards and costs

Front 21

Comparison Level (CL)

Back 21

Your realistic expectations of what you feel you deserve

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Comparison Levels Of Alternatives (CL Alt)

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Best outcome outside of the relationship

Front 23

CL and CLAlt as time goes by

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CL and CLalt are based on our pas experiences ad they fluctuate along with the outcomes we receive

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Rewards and Costs as time goes by

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- Lack of Effort
- Interdependency is a magnifying glass
- Access to weaponry
- Unwelcomed suprises
- Unrealistic expectations

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Interpersonal Conflict

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Occurs whenever one persons motives, goals, opinions, beliefs, are incompatible with someone elses

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Instigating Events

Back 26

Couples may disagree about almost any issue

Front 27

Four Types of Conflict

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Criticism

Back 28

A behavior that seems unsatsisfyingly critical, being perceived as demeaning or derogatory

Front 29

Illegitemate Demands

Back 29

Requests that are excessive and seem unjust

Front 30

Rebuffs

Back 30

Occur when they are appeals for help or support that are rejected

Front 31

Cumulative Annoyances

Back 31

Are relatively trivial events that become irritating with repetition

Front 32

5 Conflicts

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Front 33

Psuedo-conflict

Back 33

Misudnderstanding, perceptual differences
Ways to improve : Ask for clatification, look at nonverbal cues

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Simple-fact Conflict

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Different point of view, dispute over accuracy
Ways to improve : focus on facts, dont devle into different topics

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Ego Conflict

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Personal attacks
- It makes the other person defensive
- Try not to get personal, express feelings without interrupting, go back to simpel fonlict

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Meta-conflict

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Disagreement about how the conflict is being handled

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Management Styles

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Front 38

Competing/Forcing

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I win/you lose
- Uncooperative/assertive
- the person who loses conlucdes the conflict hasnt been resolved, just concluded for now

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Avoiding/Withdrawing :

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I lose/you lsoe
- Uncooperative/unassertive
- The conflict coud fester and probably grow; will must likely resurface

Front 40

Accomodating

Back 40

I lose/you win
- Cooperative/unassertive
- You sacrifice your needs to maintain harmony

Front 41

Compromise

Back 41

I win/I lose or You win/you lose
- Partially cooperative/partially assertive
- Maintain peace but there will be dissatisfaction

Front 42

Collaborating

Back 42

I win/ you win
- Cooperative/assertive
- can take alot of time and energy
- When the people involved are willing to change their thining as more information is found and new options are suggested

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Four Types of Conflict Couples

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Volatile

Back 44

Couples have frequent and passionate arguments, but they temper their fights with plenty of wit and evident fondness with each other

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Validators

Back 45

Fight more politely and calmly, behaving more like collaborators than antagonists

Front 46

Avoiders

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Rarely argue, they duck confrontation and often just try to fix the problem on their own.

Front 47

Hostiles

Back 47

Are nasty to each other
- hostiles fight with criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and withdrawal, and their marriages are more fragile than those of the other three groups.