Com Chapter 5

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Interpersonal Communication

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that type of communication that is directed at an individual and illuminates the personal element of a relationship

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Closed Family

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Stability, security, and belonging; Caring and affection based on tradition; Rigid Rules

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Random Family

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Novelty, creativity, and individuality; Rules are not rigidly enforced

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Open Family

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Adaptability, efficacy, and participation; Not constrained by rules

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Synchronous Family

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Harmony, tranquility, and mutual identification; Rarely communicate openly

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Intimacy

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involves feelings of closeness, sharing, communication and support

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Passion

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involves psychological arousal and an intense desire to be with another person

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Commitment

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involves both the short term decision to love another person, and the longer term commitment to maintain that love

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Non-love

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If intimacy, passion, or commitment is not emphasized

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Liking

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When intimacy is the only component

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Infatuation

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When passion is the only component

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Empty love

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When you have high commitment, but no intimacy or passion

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Romantic love

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intimacy and passion, no commitment

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Fatuous love

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combination of commitment and passion

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Companionate love

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combination of commitment and intimacy

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Consummate love

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combination of all three components

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Independents Marital Relationship

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Accept uncertainty and change; Do not pay attention to schedules and traditional values; Autonomous, confront conflict, willing to negotiate autonomy, share a lot; Support androgynous and flexible sex roles

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Separates Marital Relationship

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Maintain more distance between each other than other couple types; Little togetherness and sharing; Avoid conflict, have differentiated space needs, maintain schedules; Oppose androgynous and flexible sex roles

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Traditionals Marital Relationship

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Need for routine; Conventional beliefs and resist change; Physical and psychological sharing; High degrees of interdependence; Engage in conflict, but try to avoid as much as possible; Demonstrate strong sex-typed orientations and appose androgyny

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Initiating

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Beginning stage of interaction; Try to portray ourselves as someone who is likeable, friendly, understanding, and socially adept; Stereotype others

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Experimenting

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Small talk

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Intensifying

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Moving beyond being an acquaintance

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Integrating

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When two persons are combining to form one unit

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Bonding

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Public ritual that reveals that the relationship exists

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Differentiating

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First stage in coming apart; Becoming distinct or different in character

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Circumscribing

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Second stage of coming apart; Not talking about touchy subjects; “It’s none of your business.”

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Stagnating

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Going through the motions of the relationship, doing the routine gestures

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Avoiding

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The constant wish to be away from your partner

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Terminating

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Deciding to end the relationship

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Cultural Information

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using stereotypes to predict behavior and communication

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Sociological Information

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deals with a person’s membership to a certain group; doctor, frat member, in the band

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Psychological Information

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recognize the differences we have with the conversational partner

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Passionate Love

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Attracted to physical beauty; Immediate rational disclosure and physical intimacy is expected; Lose interest in relationship; Typically believe that their partner does not love them as they do

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Playful Love

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View love as a game; Partners are just targets to be conquered; Common to have more than 1 lover at a time

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Companionate Love

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Believe that love should evolve from a friendship; Solid relationship

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Realistic Love

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Base partnerships on practicality; Terminate when partner moves, etc.

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Obsessive Love

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Manipulative and jealous lovers; Love is a drug addiction, partner is the drug

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Altruistic Love

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Unselfish and kind; Do whatever to make lover happy and avoid conflict

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Social Reinforcement Explanation

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persons who are attractive are taught form an early age that they are “cute”

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Self-Disclosure

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Process by which we verbally reveal information about ourselves; reveal who we are, and help us understand others

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Quadrant 1

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Open Quadrant; Depicts the extent to which the information you are revealing is known to yourself and to others; Information people openly share

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Quadrant 2

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Hidden Quadrant; Information that is known to you, but hidden to other people

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Quadrant 3

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Blind Quadrant; Information that we fail to recognize

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Quadrant 4

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Unknown Quadrant; Unknown to ourselves and others

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Social Penetration Model

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Model which helps us understand the differences in revealing self-disclosures

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Breadth

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Amount of information one shares; Range of topics one can discuss

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Clichés

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Ritualized, stock information, that we share with just about everyone

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Facts

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Not all facts are disclosing: Must be intentional, significant, and not otherwise known

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Opinions

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What you think about a subject

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Feelings

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Sharing opinions, but they are necessarily personal; How you feel about an opinion