Com 212H Midterm

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Self esteem

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the overall value that we assign to ourselves.

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Self Concept

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Overall perception of who you are based on beliefs, attitudes, and values you have about yourself

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Self Awareness

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the ability to step outside yourself and view yourself as a unique person distinct from your surrounding environment

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Connect self esteem, concept, and awareness

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awareness: who am i
concept: answer to that q
esteem: value placed on that worth

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narcissism

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-grossly inflated opinion of competence and worth
-regarding self as superior
-vanity
-self absorption
-ego inflation
-over dependece on social sources to affirm self worth
-easily threatened

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genuine self esteem

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- evaluation that one is competent to deal with lifes bassic challenges (self efficacy)

- Evaluation that one is worthy of happiness (self worth)

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Pseudo self esteem

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depends on external sources to feel happy

feeling of comptetnce and worthiness are weak if not reinforced by social setting

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Self efficacy

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Competence

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self worth

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worthy of happiness

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self responsibility

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responsible for your own thoughts feelings and behaviors

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self acceptance

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accepting your own anxieties

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self assertiveness

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dislose thoughts and feelings in an apporpriate context, authentic thoughts

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What are the two dimensions of attachment in adult relationships

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1) anxiety about relationships (model of self)

2) avoidence of relationships (model of other)

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anxiety about relationships

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(model of self)
worry about whether I am worthy of relationships, can I count on my partner, will they like me?

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avoidence of relationships

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(model of other)
I don’t need close relationships, they are a source of pain, can’t count on other people

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Four attachment types:

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Secure
Preoccupied
Dismissive
Fearful

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Secure

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Easy to become emotionally close to others, comfortable depending on others and having others depend on them, don’t worry about being alone or having other people accept them

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Preoccupied

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want to be emotionally intimate but often find that others are reluctant to get close, uncomfortable without close relationships but worry that others do not value them

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Dismissive

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Comfortable without close emotional relationships, feel independent, self-sufficient, prefer not to depend on other people or vice versa

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Fearful

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Uncomfortable getting close to others, want emotionally close relationships but find it hard to trust others or depend on them, worry that they will get hurt if they become close to others

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Expectancy Violations Theory

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How people react to others when their expectations and anticipations are not met, especially in terms of communication

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Kinesics

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Visible body movement, including facial expressions, eye contact, gestures, and body postures

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Vocalics

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Vocal characteristics such as loudness, pitch, speech rate, and tone

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Haptics

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duration, placement, and strength of touch

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Proxemics

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Use of physical distance

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Chronemics

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Organization and use of time

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Physical Appearance

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Appearance of hair, clothing, body type, and other physical features

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Artifacts

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Personal possessions displayed to others

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Environment

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Structure of physical surroundings

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Deception

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Deliberately using uninformative untruthful, irrelevant, or vague language for the purpose of misleading others

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Gender Communication

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Men and women = verbal communicators

Non verbal-
- Women > sending/receiving non verbal messages
- Women > facial expressions
- Women > gaze more and make eye contact
- Men > territorial

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utilitarian ethics

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want the greatest good for the greatest number of people. This means often that lying and deception is justified if it helps the greatest number of people.

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deontological ethics

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one right answer that is binding to every situation
moral rules are hindering
Responsibilities
Rules, principles
lying means violating another person's autonomy so severely that lying is never justified.

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utilitarian critics

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the ends don't always justify the means, how do we decide what is the GREATEST good for the GREATEST amount of people?

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Cooperative Verbal Communication:
3 parts

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# Speak in ways that others easily can understand, using language that is informative, honest, relevant, and clear
# Take active ownership for what you're saying by using I
# Make others feel included rather than excluded... using "we"

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Grice's Cooperative prinicple:

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making our conversational contributions as informative, honest, relevant, and clear as required, given the purposes of the encouters in which we are involved.

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Grice's 4 maxims

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Quantity- to be informative
Quality- to be honest
Relevance- to be relevant
Manner- to be clear

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Grice's 4 maxims
Quantity

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Be Informative
Say as much as needs to be said, but don't say more than needs to be said

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Grice's 4 maxims
Quality

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Be Honest
Don't say things that you do not know are true

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Grice's 4 maxims
Relevance

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Be Relevant
Answer the question at hand

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Grice's 4 maxims
Manner

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Be Clear
Don't use terms that are out of date when not needed

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Violating Grice's 4 Maxims in ways we still understand (5)

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- tautologies "boys will be boys"
- irony/ sarcasm
- Metaphor
- Sudden topic shifs
- Strategic ambiguity

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Virtue Ethics

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focus on virtue and character, what are YOUR motives, reflect learn intetnions

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Interpersonal Communication Competence:

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consistently communicating in ways that meet three critera: Appropriateness, Effectiveness, Ethics

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Ethics:
Appropriateness

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your communication follows accepted norms

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Ethics:
Effectiveness

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your communication enables you to achieve your goals

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Ethics:
Ethical

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your communication treats people fairly

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How to enhance your personal communication:

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# Expressive message: convey what you think and feel so others can understand. Good for casual and friendly encounters
# Conventional mesage: attempt to acheive goals by citing social roles and obligations and weilding their power over another person
# Rhetorical messages: sucessfully blend ingredients of competent communication. can be a big deal or not a big deal depending on the situation, trys to best solve the situation at hand