Com 100-Ch. 9-Interpersonal

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personal relationship

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defined by uniqueness, rules, relationship dialectics, commitment, ad embeddedness in contexts...they are irreplaceable

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social relationship

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tend to follow broad social scripts and rules, and participants in themtend to assume conventional social roles in relation to one another...can be replaced

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passion

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intensely positive feelings and desires for another person...based on rewards from involvement and is not equivalent to commitment

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commitment

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a decision to remain with a relationship

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investment

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something put into a relationship that cannot be recovered should the relationship end....it increases commitment

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rules

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patterned ways of behaving and interpreting behavior...developed in all relationships

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relationship dialectics

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opposing forces, or tensions, that are normal parts of all relationships (autonomy/connection, novelty/predictability, openness/closedness)

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autonomy/connection

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involves tension between the need for personal independence, and intimacy

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novelty/predictability

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involves tension between wanting spontaneous new experiences and wanting routines and familiar experiences

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openness/closedness

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involves tension between wanting to share private thoughts, feelings, and experiences with intimates and wanting to preserve personal privacy

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neutralization

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involves balancing or finding a compromise between two dialectical poles

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separation

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occurs when friends or romantic partners assign one pole of a dialectic to certain spheres of activities or topics and assign the contradictory dialectical pole to distinct spheres of activities or topics

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segmentation

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responses that meet one dialectical need while ignoring or not satisfying the contradictory dialectical need

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reframing

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response that transcends the apparent contradiciton between two dialectical poles and reinterprets them as not in tension

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eros

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passionate, intense and erotic

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storge

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based on frienship and even-keeled

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ludus

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playful and sometimes manipulative

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mania

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obsessive style that often reflects personal insecurity

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agape

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selfless and focused on the others happiness

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pragma

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based on practical considerations and criteria for attachment

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relationship culture

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a private world of rules, understandings, and patterns of acting and interpreting that partners create to give meaning to their relationship...it is the nucleus of intimacy

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dyadic breakdown

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involves degeneration of established patterns, understandings, and routines that make up a relationship culture and sustain intimacy on a day-to-day basis

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intrapsychic phase

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phase in the disintegration of romantic relationships, which involves brooding about problems in the relationship and dissatifactions with a partner

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dyadic phase

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stage in relationship deterioration in which partners discuss problems and alternatives futures for the relationship

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social phase

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part of relationship disintegration in which partners figure out how to inform outsiders that the relationship is ending

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grave dressing

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final stage in the deterioration of romantic relationships in which partners put the relationship to rest

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psychological responsibility

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obligation to remember, plan, and coordinate domestic work and child care...in general, women assume this for child care and housework, even if both partners share in the actual doing of tasks