Chapter 10

Front 1

Sound Marital House Structure

Back 1

Foundation:
1. Continuing Interest in Your Spouse
2. The Fondness and Admiration System
3. Healthy Emotional Bank Account

4. Positive Sentiment Override
5. Solve Solvable Problems
6. Making Dreams Come True
7. Value Shared Marriages

Front 2

First Floor

Back 2

* continuing interest in partner's life
* Principle : find out details of partner's life
* updates love map

Front 3

Second Floor

Back 3

* fondness and admiration
* glue that holds relationship together
* contempt is harmful
* principle: take time to nurture the F & A system.
* Magic 5 hours a week: Partings, Reunions, Admiration & Appreciation, Affection, Love Maps

Front 4

Third Floor

Back 4

* Turn toward each other in positive ways each day.
* Adds to emotional bank account.
* Principle: redouble efforts to turn toward each other in support.

Front 5

Fourth Floor

Back 5

* Positive sentiment override
* Allows negativity to not be processed with inferring evil intent.
* More likely to accept influence
* A reciprocal relationship exists between a husband's accepting influence and a wife's use of soft startup during conflict.
* Priniciple: Allow yourself to be influenced by your partner.