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23 Cards in this Set
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dissatisfaction with one's partner
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not receiving the expected rewards from the partner
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disillusionment with the relationship
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the purposes for forming the relationship have been accomplished
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Difficulties with individual characteristics
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psychological or behavioral tendencies that interfere with the maintenance of rewarding relationships
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problems with others who form the relationship network
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in laws, friends, former or current lovers, etc
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strains created by background variables
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race, education, etc
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in ability to deal with stresses imposed by circumstances
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relocation, employment
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positive tone
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very gently, apologizing, show that you care, end things on a good note
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negative identity management
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Date others
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Justification
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justifying your reasons, explaining why you're breaking up
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behavioral de-escalation
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ignoring
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De-escalation
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too much dependency, a need to breath
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disassociation
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reflected in an increasing concern for oneself, and a resulting decrease in concern for the relationship
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managing the question
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1) misunderstanding
2) limitation 3) non sequitur (not logically related) 4) restatement 5)the more fundamental question 6) hypothetical answer 7) Is this really a question? 8) moot question approach - question is impossible to answer 9) the assertion of nothing |
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Changing the level of conversation
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concrete-abstract continuum, specific analysis to a more general, abstract one.
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sending incongruous messages
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1) communicating on two unrelated levels at the same time
2) constantly switching from one emotional wavelength to another while on the same topic. 3) switching from one topic to another while remaining on the same emotional wavelength |
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Patriarchal terrorism
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involves violence used by males to exert control and show power over their female partner. The degree of bodily harm is often extreme
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Dominating
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requires control:
1) control information 2) control social contacts 3)control of time 4) control of the relationship |
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nullification
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the reformer is expected to give up simply on the word of the authority
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isolation
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if the dominator's authority continues to be questioned, attempts are made to isolate the questioner
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Defamation
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continued persistence by the person challenging the authoritarian in the face of these indirect attempts at suppression may bring about more direct efforts
question the motives of the challenger |
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Expulsion
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comes as a last resort in more intimate relationships
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certain
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being a know it all
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provisional
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Believe that life is too unpredictable to ever know or say anything for sure. Hence, a decision-less state of limbo is maintained.
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