Conversation is a key component in everyone's lives. We need to have exceptional conversation skills to be able to adjust ourselves and thoughts depending on the situation. In a relationship between two hetertosexual people, there an important reason for that couple to know the ins and out of certain conversations between each other. In Deborah Tannen’s article “Talk in the Intimate Relationship: His and Hers” Tannen emphasizes the key difference in conversation and explains the reason for conversation barriers between a heterosexual relationship. This paper will analyze Tannen’s argument on the conversation style changes men and women possess. Cross-culturing presents itself when analyzing the difference between conversation style and where
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The opposite gender is the leading factor on why the conversation style is different. The idea that men and women grow up in different worlds seem to have an affect on how each gender compute ideas differently from childhood to adulthood. During childhood a person is exposed to different concepts that stick with that person as the begin to grow up. The person than displays those different concepts during these relationships which becomes a pattern like act. Women need more involvement during these relationships. The like being understood without necessarily having to say anything. Women hope for their men to break down their ideas and pull out the importance in a conversation. Men on the other hand want this idea of being more independent and more discrete. Tannen involves a concept of metamessages which in conveying meaning without saying what you actually mean. Tannen indicate that women use metamessages more rather than men. Men in this case are unaware that their women are using this concept and how negotiate with her. Tannen concludes that women use “metmessages” so often and because men don’t understand the concept the conversation is then unbalanced. This unbalanced roots from the idea of men and women growing up differently in different
The opposite gender is the leading factor on why the conversation style is different. The idea that men and women grow up in different worlds seem to have an affect on how each gender compute ideas differently from childhood to adulthood. During childhood a person is exposed to different concepts that stick with that person as the begin to grow up. The person than displays those different concepts during these relationships which becomes a pattern like act. Women need more involvement during these relationships. The like being understood without necessarily having to say anything. Women hope for their men to break down their ideas and pull out the importance in a conversation. Men on the other hand want this idea of being more independent and more discrete. Tannen involves a concept of metamessages which in conveying meaning without saying what you actually mean. Tannen indicate that women use metamessages more rather than men. Men in this case are unaware that their women are using this concept and how negotiate with her. Tannen concludes that women use “metmessages” so often and because men don’t understand the concept the conversation is then unbalanced. This unbalanced roots from the idea of men and women growing up differently in different