The article “Sex, Lies and Conversation” by Deborah Tannen illustrates several points about the differences and similarities between the conversational techniques of men and women of varying ages. In her article, she mentions how men and women have different expectations of what a conversationalist is supposed to do, one of them being that women “assume a conversationalist's job is to express agreement and support” (para 19) meanwhile men “see their conversational duty as pointing out the other side of an argument” (para 19). This can create unintended tension between both people, such can be seen in the book Deep Down Dark by Hector Tobar.
Chapter four of the book is when hunger and desperation first begins to show itself within the 33 men. …show more content…
Maria Segovia is clearly one of the more persistent woman of the bunch, she refuses to give up on her brother. She is one of the main women who help set up Camp Ezperanza and even contacts CNN Chile for the sake of keeping the story alive. One night Maria climbs to the top of a local mountain to get a visual of the proficiency of the rescue mission. To her disbelief they appear to have stopped drilling, she goes to back to recount what she just witnessed (page 119). The women cause a scene yelling, “You’ve stopped drilling! You’ve stopped!”, they next begin to “hit the pots and pans they brought to cook meals, making as much noise as they can”. They next are informed that “they’ve just broken one of the diamond drills” and that it will be replaced (page 119). This is an example of verbal and nonverbal communication being intertwined in order to reach the common goal of getting their men rescued. In the scene described above, the women supportively communicated to get the message of them not giving up across. The well-established communications skills at Camp Ezperanza tied into the point Ms. Tannen made where she said, “women see conversation as a ritual means of establishing rapport” (para 20). Even Yonni’s wife and girlfriend were able to come together mutually in times like
Chapter four of the book is when hunger and desperation first begins to show itself within the 33 men. …show more content…
Maria Segovia is clearly one of the more persistent woman of the bunch, she refuses to give up on her brother. She is one of the main women who help set up Camp Ezperanza and even contacts CNN Chile for the sake of keeping the story alive. One night Maria climbs to the top of a local mountain to get a visual of the proficiency of the rescue mission. To her disbelief they appear to have stopped drilling, she goes to back to recount what she just witnessed (page 119). The women cause a scene yelling, “You’ve stopped drilling! You’ve stopped!”, they next begin to “hit the pots and pans they brought to cook meals, making as much noise as they can”. They next are informed that “they’ve just broken one of the diamond drills” and that it will be replaced (page 119). This is an example of verbal and nonverbal communication being intertwined in order to reach the common goal of getting their men rescued. In the scene described above, the women supportively communicated to get the message of them not giving up across. The well-established communications skills at Camp Ezperanza tied into the point Ms. Tannen made where she said, “women see conversation as a ritual means of establishing rapport” (para 20). Even Yonni’s wife and girlfriend were able to come together mutually in times like