The Benefits Of Arranged Marriage

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“How is it possible to marry a stranger?” asked a woman who accompanied Mr.Shad Imam on his flight back to America.The very question has popped up in his a mind few years back, but now almost 6 years into his marriage, he cannot imagine being with somebody other than his wife selected by his parents. Just like Mr. Shad Imam, there are plenty of young people in the world whose acceptance of arranged marriage has restored the traditional values and customs back to the modern society.Although the western cultures may frown on the idea of an arranged marriage, the young generation has opted to remain neutral to the concept of marriages; they seem to evaluate the benefits of arranged marriage without excluding its possibility at true romance.Our …show more content…
“Arranged marriages are not always dictatorial” said Arvind Kumar, the editor of Indian Currents (Stefoff 17).Exaggeration and resistance to accept the advantages of arranged marriage are part of the reason why it is degraded to be strange or unusual.People do not realize the fact that it is different from forced marriages.Arranged marriages are not forced marriages but it tends to have the tendency to be forced in illiterate poverty stricken societies.Not all arranged marriages abuse power and impede an individual 's right of free will; in fact, it is immensily similar to the practice of blind dating where friends or family members set up dates that have the potential for a wife or husband.Dating advices are always freely available from

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