The Tough

“Uhm, actually I don’t speak English. Sorry.” Those were the words he said when you first met him. You sat at the table next to the window while taking small sips of your warm caramel macchiato, lightly tapping your fingers on the table and looking out onto the busy streets of Myeongdong. It was around the same time of the year when you met him 5 years ago. It was during summer and it was raining heavily outside when you bumped into him “I’m so sorry, are you ok?” you bent down to pick up your…

appeasement? [Love Must Be Tough, Ch. 2] Panic is the characteristic response to rejection and betrayal. When a person is in panic mode they will resort to accommodating their spouse hoping that this will return their adoration to them; ergo, this is appeasement. Panic often leads to appeasement, which is virtually never successful in seeking to control the behavior of others (p. 31). According to Dobson, how do feelings of entrapment impact love? [Love Must Be Tough, Ch. 3] Dobson says that…

After viewing "Tough Guise", it became apparent to me that a "real man" is one who is tough, strong, physical, and in control. They are not allowed to appear uncontrolled or feminine. I think that these traits of what it means to be masculine or feminine, are most often learned through our culture, like for example, where we grew up, what are socioeconomic standing was, how our parents raised us, or even what the media portrays as right. This can have potential affects on boys and men because…

problems they have at home. Most students are living in poverty; therefore, Principle Dozier “enrolled twenty-five of her most troubled students in an intensive mentoring program” (Tough, 2012, pg. 7). Tough included the story of one of the students in the mentoring program, who began to have positive changes. Dozier and Tough wanted to make a…

My views of gender, in general, have been reshaped. The book, videos, and class discussions have contested many aspects of my everyday life and the video Tough Guize truly resonated with me. I am raising two young boys and am glad to be learning the concepts of patriarchy and the social differences between men and women. The topic of gender in this class has left me with many questions and concerns as they grow up to be older boys, teenagers, and adult. There is an element of despair that I have…

It's all about our pasts and how they have made a negative impact on our lives, but have made us stronger and more powerful as time goes by, and touches on people trying to act like they know us and what we've been through. Near the end, Tough to Break touches on the fact that our lives are what we make it, and that we can take hold of our futures and change whatever we wish. Gone Not Forgotten This song has touched my heart in many ways. Justin opened up to me about the real meaning behind…

Tough love Tough love is an expression used when someone treats another person harshly or sternly with the intent to help them in the long run, to use tough love you need to feel actual love for the person behind this action! It sounds much like I have taken the sentence from the dictionary and you would be right, because that’s exactly what I did to try and gain some insight to what that really means. Much like I was looking for a way to understand the reason this has to happen, and the words…

Tough Lives In the story “To Kill A Mockingbird” there are two characters who have tough lives, Tom Robinson and Walter Cunningham. Tom Robinson lives with his wife and kids and has a good job but the reason why his life is tough is because he is black and lives in the 1930’s where black people are discriminated against. Walter is a farmer who is white but poor, he and his family don’t accept anything from anyone because they can not pay them back. Tom Robinson is discriminated…

Tough Guys: Masculinity in Hard-Boiled Fiction Hard-boiled fiction initially emerged in the pulp magazines, such as the Black Mask, in the late nineteen twenties and early thirties. The genre originated through the writings of Dashiell Hammett and further developed by the work of Raymond Chandler. Hard-boiled fiction is often acclaimed as an icon of American masculinity in modern literature. The conception of masculinity represented by the protagonist in these narratives became popular amongst…

Tough aint enough Last month saw the finals of the women's world cup football with the UK coming in a respectable third as they played off against our favourite rivals Germany and the Americans, who still feel the need to call the game soccer, won over Japan - kudos. Certain things that stood out again, not only the level of skill proving every bit entertaining as their male counter parts, yet again proving just how tough these female athletes are some journalists comparing them to the men.…