Shame society

children at this stage is the notion of goodness of fit (Jeffries, 2015). As toddlers look for social cues from their environment and are developing their sense of self, if a child is not accepted by those around them they will experience stress, shame and doubt. Differing temperaments between child and caregiver can have a large impact on this development. The social and emotional differences experienced by the child and caregiver can cause friction and tension when the caregiver is unable…

In Toni Morrison’s novel Beloved, both Sethe and Paul D escape their physical bondage as slaves; however, a comparison between Sweet Home and 124, both places of torment and suffering, reveals how emotional bondage can also enslave a person sometimes without them even noticing. As we learn from piecing together flashbacks the characters share, our two main protagonists Sethe and Paul D begin their story at a farm called Sweet Home, where they are slaves to the Garner family. Although these…

The Psychological Effects of Shaming Shame itself comes in many forms and typically, people tend to associate shame with being humiliated about one’s self or a particular situation one finds themselves in. For example, Dick Gregory writes in his essay Shame, “I never learned hate at home, or shame. I had to go to school for that.” He tells the reader about how he was publically shamed by his teacher in class because he didn’t have father at home. While shaming can be useful, it can also have a…

Everyone regret some things they have done in their life. Some are less intense than others. No matter what mistake you do, there are only two things left to do. You learn or you do not. Although I am not proud of this action at all, I did once sneak out of my home to meet a boy I thought I liked. I remember as if it happened yesterday. Boy was my mom angry, especially my dad! Silly as it sounds, I was young and well…dumb. I was 15 years old and I just started having crushes on boys and whatnot.…

Meeting parental expectations and completing all of the “requirements” to be a successful son or daughter has always been part of the main goal and developing process for everyone, no matter how old the “child” is. Sandra Cisneros and Amy Tan, authors of two unique essays - "Only Daughter" and "Mother Tongue" - with the similar theme, are sharing their experiences and thought processes regarding that question. They have something in common – both women immigrated to the United States with their…

Rehabilitation of the Soul: How Flannery O’Connor Uses the Concept of Disability in “The Lame Shall Enter First” In her short story, “The Lame Shall Enter First” Flannery O’Connor shares the tale of a self-righteous reformatory counselor, Sheppard, who forgoes the raising of his own son to embark on a quest to improve the life of a young miscreant, Rufus Johnson, who has a clubbed foot. Eventually after devoting all his time and effort to the saving of this young boy, Sheppard realizes the…

Application of New Criticism: forgiving my father A short synopsis of the poem “forgiving my father”, written by Lucille Clifton is that it is about a daughters recollection of her life growing up, specifically her father’s inefficiencies. Throughout the poem, the persona shifts through boots of anger, bitterness and contempt as she reflects on the experiences she had growing up. To fully grasp what the poem is about in its totality, one could ascribe to many different types of criticism…

Constructive Criticism When someone offers constructive criticism, one may respond in a defensive manner no matter how constructive the criticism may be. One tends to attempt to explain or excuse the behavior as to avoid the feeling of judgment. Reactions to constructive criticism, I believe, depends on who offers it, whether it is a family member, a friend, a co-worker, our boss or supervisor, and how well we get along with the person. Overall receiving and responding to constructive…

Lieutenant Jimmy Cross, Kiowa,Dave Jensen and many others whom he served with in the war. This, draws meaning about the war from their relationships. O’Brien addressed shame and storytelling and memory for the people that don’t know about what really happens in war. The chapter, “ In The Field,” readers can see the soldiers all carried shame and guilt. The chapter is talking about how three men managed their guilt over…

Why Blame is Your Fault When I was in tenth grade, I was cut from my school’s soccer team. It shocked and upset me. The coach spoke to each of us individually so that those who did not make it would not feel embarrassed. The trek to the car was one of the longest 50 meters I have ever walked. Telling my friends the results of the tryout was even less rewarding. I had every reason to believe I would make the team. I had played for the freshman soccer team the year before. I was one of the…