Deborah Tannen

What causes romantic relationships to break up? One of the main goals in life is to find the right partner. These goals appear everywhere whether it is from television, books, i.e. fairy tale. We have our own idea of a perfect relationship; we look for those who is understanding, compassionate, thoughtful, and sensitive. At a young age, we see is what we believe, whether it is the idea from fairy tales, or “happy ending”. As we get older, we try to seek these “idea” of fairy tales, so finding…

children. Women are put under a microscope and constantly watch to see if they make an error. While men are allowed to roam free. They praise the behaviour from men but slander it for women. Like the author of “His Politeness Is Her Powerlessness” Deborah Tannen states “There are many kinds of evidence that women and men are judged differently even if they talk the same way. This tendency makes mischief in discussions of women, men, and power. If a linguistic strategy is used by a woman, it is…

“I’m Sorry I Won’t Apologize” by Deborah Tannen, she explains that her husband hurt her feelings and apologized to her, but he is grinning as he says it. This may convey that when some men apologize, that they do not mean it, but just say for the other person to make them feel better. Not apologizing as often as the opposite sex may be because they have the mindset of blaming the other person rather than accepting the fault (Tannen). In the article written by Tannen, it speaks about a scenario…

fail to back up his words. Getting the respect from woman will help a man to keep his reputation at a higher level than of a woman. Also man has to keep his power by not confessing to his mistake. In an essay “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” by Deborah Tannen, Tannen mentions, “improvement comes naturally, as it did to the young woman and her boyfriend who seemed to go to sleep when she wanted to talk. Previously, she had accused him of not listening, and he…

people don’t understand how powerful if communication. When it comes to communicating with others been clear is necessary. Sometimes words can be misunderstood if we don’t have the proper words or expressions. “Men and Women Talking on the Job” by Deborah Tannen. This tells us how the different roles of men and women are viewed by their own sex and the opposite sex. Even though every individual has their own style, it seems that women are more likely to downplay their certainty; men are more…

In the article titled “His Politeness Is Her Powerlessness” by Deborah Tannen proves that there are many kinds of evidence that women and men are judged differently even if they talk the same way. If strategy is used by a women, it is seen as powerless, but if it is done by a man, it is seen as powerful. Women have lower status that man in our society, sometimes culture plays a big role in why women are seen to be powerlessness compared to men. For example, I remember the time I was with my…

Oh How the Times Have Changed Shaunty Garcia BYU-Idaho Oh How the Times Have Changed Have you ever seen society turn something that could potentially be good into something negative or bad? Well in these two writings we can see two big examples from today’s world doing just that. How is it possible that “bad things” slowly turn or seem normal? As we look through these pieces keep an open mind of how often this occurs in your life. In the article by Sherry Turkley "Can You Her Me Now…

Biologically a male individual has to technically catch up to a female in terms of early speaking habits. At an early age, females are linguistically and mathematically more advanced than males at an early age. (Tannen, Deborah. “Can’t we talk? Pg. 1072) Even though the male has been ruler for many centuries in the social aspect they don’t have the upper hand when it comes to education. Men are less suitable in stressful situations in which most men have high tempered…

Acting Minds Hillary Clinton, Amelia Earhart, Sojourner Truth and Rosa Parks. This is just a short list of many great female figures in history. While each of them might have different beliefs and goals, each one of them have something in common. They all made the decision to act with their mind despite what the social norm may be. Truth’s “Ain’t I a Woman” speech expresses that woman have as much potential as men to do anything they put their mind too (574-576). Today that sort of tenacity…

Deborah Tannen discusses these feelings in her writing I’m Sorry I won’t Apologize. One difference between women and men is that some men fear admitting fault. While many women will quickly apologize when they are at fault, many men have difficulties admitting…