The Myth Of Charisma

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Three quick tips to boost charisma?

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Lower the intonation of your voice at the end of sentences, reduce how quickly and often you nod, pause for 2 full seconds before you speak

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What is being present?

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Having a moment-to-moment awareness of what's happening. Instead of being caught in your own thoughts

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How do you bring yourself back to the present when wandering?

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Focusing on breath or toes and then back to the other person

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What are the 3 components of charisma?

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Power. Warmth and Present

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What is someone who projects power without warmth?

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Arrogant/cold

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What is someone who projects warmth withou power?

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Desperate

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What comes first in charisma?

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Internal state

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What are the obstacles of charisma?

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Physical discomfort, tension, uncertainty

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What is a big predictor of success in life?

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Being confortable with uncertainty and ambiguity

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What are the solutions to handling the obstacles of charisma

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-Rewriting reality

-Neutralize negativity

-de-stigmatize discomfort

-Realizing we're human

-Asking what mental state is more suited to in a situation and rewrite reality to put you there

-Writing to get thoughts out of your head

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What is a boosted way to rewrite reality?

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Rewriting it on paper to believe the storyline

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How to create a mental state?

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-Visualization (Doesn't have to be new)

-Invoking gratitude

-Goodwill (hope 2 people you see will be happy)

-Compassion (Goodwill + Empathy)

-Music

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What are the 4 charisma styles?

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Focus, visionary, kindness and authority

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What does focus charisma require?

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Presence

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What are the risks of Focus charisma?

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-If you display too little power, you appear too eager

-If you display too little warmth, your interacyion may feel like an interview or interrogation

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What does Visionary charisma require?

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Complete conviction and confidence in a cause. It may not warm people but will feel passionately about their vision

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What does Kindness charisma require?

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Warmth. It connects to peoples hearts

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What is the risk of kindness charisma?

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Seem too overeager to please and it can lead to over-attachment

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What does Authority charisma require

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Power and its perception

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What are the risks of Power charisma?

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Inhibit critical thinking in others and easily make you appear arrogant.

To contradict it you have to give a little warmth

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How to know what emotional state I need to bring at the moment?

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Ask: How are people around me feeling?

What do they need in this moment?

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When should you try new charisma styles?

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Low stake situations

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How do you give the perfect handshake?

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-Rise if you're seated

-Make plenty eye contact

-Smile warmly but briefly

-Keep your palm flat

-Try to wrap fingers around the hand

-Lock your thumb down

-Shake from Elbow

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How do you break the ice?

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Ask open handed questions

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What is the bounce back technique and how to do it?

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It's a technique to keep the spotlight on the other person and you do it by:

1. Answer the question with a fact

2. Add a personal note

3. Redirect the question to them

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How to exit a conversation with grace?

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Offer something of value then dip

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What does thinking about what to say next do?

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It shows a lack of presence

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What do master listeners do?

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-Never interrupt

-Let themselves be interrupted

-Pause 2 secondw before they answer (face absorbs, reacts, thrn answers)

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What will other people associate you with?

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How you make then feel

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How to take a compliment?

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Stop. Absorb the compliment. Let it show in your face. And thank them

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How to instantly make feel someone great about themselves?

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Acting interested and even impressed with someone

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How should ypu rephrase "no problem" and "don't worry"?

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Rephrase like: "We'll take care of it"

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How do you project power through voice?

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Speak slowly with frequent pauses, drop intonation and breathe through your nose

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What does mirroring someone's body language do?

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Activates deep instincts of trust and liking

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When is "Mirror-then-lead" a useful strategy?

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When the person you're mirroring needs reassurance, such as when timid, anxious or awkward

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What is the purpose of sitting at a 90 degree angle at somebody?

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To establish rapport

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When do people feel separation distress?

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Whenever someone maintaining significant eye contact with us turn away. To avoid it keep eye contact for 2/3 seconds after the end of an interaction

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What always kills charisma on the spot?

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A body language of insecurity

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How do you increase poise?

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By avoiding:

-nodding more than once

-excessive verbal reassurance

-restlessness or fidgeting

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How to deal with a dificult person through warmth?

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Recall something they've done for you and express youe gratitude. The best compliments are personal and specific

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How to maintain a support for an idea?

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Remiding people that they chose you/company/service/suggestion

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How to deal with a toxic person?

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Rewrite reality to get into empathy

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What should you considet before entering a difficult conversation?

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-Timing

-Location

-The other persons mental state

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What is the right charisma style for bad news?

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Warmth

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How should you deliver criticism?

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Think about timing and location, get into a mindset of compassion and empathy, decide exactly what points to make and depersonalize

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How should you start a critical feedback?

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With a positive note. Tell them what you want to see from them and not what you don't want

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What should you do when you sense defensiveness?

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Dial up your warmth

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What should you do when apologizing?

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First hear them out without rebutting and fully understand, then say you're sorry with meaning, show you understand the consequences and present the step(s) to ensure it won't happen again.

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How do you communicate warmth through the phone?

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By smiling

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What is the main thing to do when presenting an idea?

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Make the single most important idea crystal clear and present 3 supporting points (because people think in triads)

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What should you do when crafting your sentences in a presentation?

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-Use the word "you" as often as possible.

-beware negations

-Avoid irritants, sounds or movements that don't add to your message

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How do you project power in a presentation?

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-Adopt a wide stance

-Find the right volume to project confidence

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How do you project warmth in a preaentation?

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-Speak as if you're sharing a secret

-Give 1/2 seconds of eye contact per person as you roam the room/stage

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How to feel more confident presenting?

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Take the focus off yourself

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How do you curb the envy of someone?

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Show gratitude of something they've done for you with an highlighted example

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How do you practice vulnerability?

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By paying attention to not just what you share but how you feel while sharing