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EXAMPLES OF EGO STRENGTH
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•They are not afraid to honestly acknowledge and feel the full range of their feelings – including grief, insecurity, loneliness and anxiety – yet do not get bogged down in these mood states for long.
•When they suffer a loss, they push forward, focusing on what they can give to others and accomplish, not allowing self-pity or resentment to cripple them. •They use painful events to strengthen themselves spiritually, focusing on compassion, humility, creativity and faith. •Despite loss, they engage in positive activities (exercise, cleaning, kindness, learning, etc.), knowing that all feelings are transient and eventually fade. •They empathize with others, willing to hear and "hold" the pain others are experiencing without trying to reduce or eliminate the pain. •They are self-disciplined, courageously resisting temptations and fighting addictive urges, even if doing so means going against the crowd. •They take responsibility for their actions, holding themselves accountable and not blaming others for the negativity they may feel at times. •Thanks to their independent sense of self-worth, they know that their essence is good and holy even if others are scornful or dismissive. •They accept themselves, with their limitations, knowing that perfection is a childish demand, and yet strive constantly to do their maximum. •They set firm limits, saying "No" even if it means disappointing others or risking ridicule and rejection. They avoid people who drain them physically or emotionally. |
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LACK OF EGO STRENGTH
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•They are on a perpetual roller-coaster, controlled by their moods, fears and anxieties, constantly thinking, "I can't cope with life."
•They take everything personally and, therefore, are easily insulted, sure that, "No one really cares about me. People are selfish and self-centered and always irritating, ignoring, belittling and hurting me on purpose." •They give up easily, thinking, "What's the use? I always mess things up. No matter how hard I try, nothing works out for me. I'm a loser and a failure." •They give their personal power over to others, feeling "big" when others admire them and "little" when others are disapproving. •Because their sense of self is rooted in others, they obsess about "what do others think of me?" Since they believe, "I'm not good enough," they are sure others feel the same way about them. Thus, they don't trust those who care about them and fear those who don't. •They try to control others with guilt-tripping, anger and resentment. •They constantly complain about not getting enough from people; there is never enough love, help, understanding, approval, respect, compassion or sensitivity. Feeling like a "nobody," they resent others and belittle whatever others do for them, making it meaningless and feeling that "it's never enough." •They constantly judge themselves and others as inferior or superior, rating people according to their looks, income, accomplishments and other superficial factors, turning relationships into competitive power struggles. •Fearful of ridicule and rejection, they give up their own dreams and then complain, "I can't do what I really want, because they won't let." •They are undisciplined. If an urge to explode or an addictive impulse arises, they give in to it, feeling that, "I don't have the strength to fight." |
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DEFINITION OF EGO STRENGTH
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In psychoanalysis ego strength is the ability of the ego to effectively deal with the demands of the id, the superego, and reality. Ego strength is a basis for resilience and helps us maintain emotional stability and to cope with internal and external stress.
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