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MEN- DEBORAH TANNEN |
According to Deborah Tannen, the way men speak have an effect is different to the way women speak. The factors which have an influence on this would be: Men speak in an hierarchical social order- one up or one down They get more air time Negotiate Status/ Avoid failure Speak asymmetrically Men are more blunt Men use more imperatives Assertive Argumentative |
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DEBORAH TANNEN'S SIX CONTRASTS |
1) Supportive VS Status 2) Intimacy VS Independence 3) Advice VS Understanding 4) Feelings VS Information 5)Proposal VS Orders 6)Compromise VS Conflict |
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Men grow up in a world in which conversation is competitive- they seek to achieve the upper hand or prevent anyone from dominating them. Men see the world as a place to gain status and are keen to keep it. However women see the world as a network of connections seeking support and consensus. |
Women often think mostly of closeness and support, and struggle to maintain intimacy.
Men, concerned with status, tend to focus more on independence. Tannen's example- of a woman who would check with her husband before inviting a guest to stay - because she likes telling friends that she has to check with him. The man, meanwhile, invites a friend without asking his wife first, because to tell the friend he must check amounts to a loss of status. |
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Advice VS Understanding
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Deborah Tannen claims that, to many men a complaint is a challenge to find a solution: “When my mother tells my father she doesn't feel well, he invariably offers to take her to the doctor. Invariably, she is disappointed with his reaction. Like many men, he is focused on what he can do, whereas she wants sympathy.” |
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Information VS Feeling |
Historically, men's concerns were seen as more important than those of women, but today this situation may be reversed so that the giving of information of speech are considered of less value than sharing of emotions and elaboration.
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Conflict VS Compromise |
In trying to prevent fights,”- Tannen
“some women refuse to oppose the will of others openly. But sometimes it's far more effective for a woman to assert herself, even at the risk of conflict. ” This situation is easily observed in work-situations where a management decision seems unattractive - men will often resist it vocally. |
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But,people believe that men's and women's speech styles are different (as Tannen does), it seems that it is usually the women who are told to change. Tannen says, “Denying real differences can only compound the confusion that is already widespread in this era of shifting and re-forming relationships between women and men.”
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Professor Tannen describes two types of speaker as high-involvement and high-considerateness speakers. High-involvement speakers are concerned to show enthusiastic support, while high-considerateness speakers are, by definition, more concerned to be considerate of others. They choose not to impose on the conversation as a whole or on specific comments of another speaker.
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