Couples Therapy Final Exam

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4 Interventions for IBCT

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1)Behavior Exchange
2)Communication/Problem solving techniques
3) Emotional Acceptance
4) Cognitive Factors

Front 2

What is Positive Sentiment Override in IBCT?

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-Giving your partner the benefit of the doubt instead of taking things personally
-positive thoughts about you partner and your marriage supersedes negative feelings

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What are Gottman's 7 principles?

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1)Enhancing your love map. (likes/dislikes).
2)Nurture your fondness and admiration.
3)Turn towards each other instead of away
4)Let your partner influence you
5)Solve your solvable problems
6)Overcoming gridlock. (sign that you have dreams for your life that aren’t being addressed)
7)Create shared meaning. (develop your own micro culture where your dreams are honored).

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What percent can gottman predict divorce within 5 minutes?

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91-94%

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What is Gottman's 5-1 rule?

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For every 1 negative there should be 5 positives

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How does EFT view marital distress?

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As being maintained by the manner in which people organize and process their emotional experience, and the patterns of interaction they engage in, which take on a life of their own and become self-reinforcing?

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What are the Assumptions of EFT?

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Front 8

What are the 3 things that he asked us to access for early on in the first session?

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Front 9

What is the Process for deepening dialogue in Imago therapy?

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-Re-imagining the partner (parent child dialogue)
-Re-romanticizing (flood each other with caring behaviors)
-Re-visioning (dream relationship)
-Behavior change request (based on Gottman’s 5:1 rule)
-Resolving rage through container

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What are the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse:

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a) Contempt
b) Criticism
c) Defensiveness
d) Stonewalling

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What is Primary treatment goal of EFT?

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Focuses on the here and now responses of partners, tracking and expanding both internal experiences and interactional moves and countermoves. Change occurs on the session as the couples experiences themselves differently and interact in a new way.

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What does solution focused therapy focus on?

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Focuses on what happens inside people vs. between them. Asks questions like “Where isn’t the problem happening?

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When is couple therapy not appropriate?

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When there is active domestic violence?

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Different factors that help predict divorce? Gottman

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1) Harsh Startup
2) The 4 horsemen
3) Flooding
4) Body Language
5)Failed Repair Attempts
6)Bad Memories

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According to Gottman what makes a couple successful?

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p. 142?

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What should you do with severely distressed couples?

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-Have small goals.
-Change perception of each other (Reframing)

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What are common mistakes for beginning therapists make?

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-Taking sides
-Seeing the problem/predicting what will happen
-First session meeting individually.
-Advice giving
-Don’t assume anything, no generalizations
-Emotional dumping (session gets out of hand)
-Therapists will dive into sexual issues too fast.
-Therapist is not aware of gender issues.
-Trying to give individual therapy while other person is in the room

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Other predictors of divorce?

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1) Cohabitation before marriage
2) Having kids early in relationships
3) Religion
4) Gottmans 4 horseman
5) Parent upbringing/broken home

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What should you do with moderately distressed couples?

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-Share thoughts and feelings
-do enactments
-increase emotional engagement between them
-increase ability to handle and manage emotional aspect
-work on unsolvable issues

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What are common mistakes for beginning therapists to make?

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-Taking sides
-Seeing the problem/predicting what will happen
-First session meeting individually.
-Advice giving
-Don’t assume anything, no generalizations
-Emotional dumping (session gets out of hand)
-Therapists will dive into sexual issues too fast.
-Therapist is not aware of gender issues.
-Trying to give individual therapy while other person is in the room

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Post-gender treatment goals

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-Identify the ways gender evokes meaning and emotion in couple relationships.
-Create a context through which couples can address previously invisible aspects of gender and power in their relationships.
-Help couples develop a framework for evaluating equality in their relationships.
-Help couples seeking intimacy open communication and mutuality move beyond gender stereotypical behavior, toward relationship equality.
-Help women and men expand relational skills and competencies limited by gender sterotypes.

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What is the first general process in EFT?

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-Therapeutic relationship
-de-escalation

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How should the God couple relationship be viewed according to Butler?

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Triangle relationship. Couple may turn to God at times, instead of the partner.

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What are the 3 stages of treatment for couples who present with affairs according to Abram- springs?

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1) normalize emotional crisis for both hurt and unfaithful party,
2) separately; help the couple make a thoughtful decision about recommitting or leaving—address fears or recommitting, doubts;
3) help develop strategies for constructive change

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What are the types of affairs?

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1)accidental
2)romantic
3)marital agreement
4)continuous reoccurring

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What are some helpful interventions with couples with violence?

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Front 27

Gottman's three types of stable marriages?

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1)Volatile
2)Validating
3)Conflict avoiding

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What role should the therapist take when working with a couple who is presenting infidelity?

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1) Process emotions of unfaithful partner
2) Normalize all emotional responses (both partners)
3) Make sure to do suicidal assessment

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Characteristics of a male philanderer(player) according to Frank Pittman?

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Obsessed with own masculinity
determined to not come under control of opposite sex, usually a sexual competitiveness with other men,
gay men are ultimate philanderers

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What role should therapist take when working with couple with infidelity?

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Normalize emotional responses
2)do a suicidal assessment,
3)process emotions of unfaithful partner
4) be UNBIASED,
5)help them understand why?
6) DO not define what is infidelity for couple

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What are some helpful interventions with couples with violence?

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Get a restraining order, detailed safety plan
2)timeouts
3) frame violence as choice and learned behavior
4) anger impulse/control training, teach them to be aware of body signs
5) look for cognitive emotional behavior patterns

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What does problems focused therapy what does it focus on?

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What happens between people (couple) and what's maintaining their patterns, focuses on the interaction?

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When is it more beneficial for children to have parents divorce than stay together?

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When marriage is defined as high conflict

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How is battering defined by Jacobson?

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Fear is used to control

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Whats best treatment for a type one vagal reactive batterer?

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Jail

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Stage 1 of EFT? DINR

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De-escalation
Identify negative inter-relational cycle (the dance)
Negative Underlying Emotions
Reframing

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Stage 2 of EFT? SAT

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Share
Acceptance from other partner (pursuer)
Talk about unacknowledged feelings

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Stage 3? IC

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Integration
Consolidation