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What are the relationship characteristics? |
1. Duration 2. Contact frequency 3. Sharing 4. Support 5. Interaction variability 6. Goals |
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Define duration |
The length of your relationship with another person |
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Define contact frequency |
How often you communicate with another person |
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Define sharing |
The more time we spend with other people and interact with them, the more likely we are to share information about ourselves |
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Define support |
Supporting others when they need help, money, time, or advice |
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Define interaction variability |
When we have a relationship with another person, it's not defined on your interaction with them, rather on the different types of conversations you can have with that person |
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Define goals |
Every relationship we enter into, we have goals and expectations about how the relationship will function and operate |
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What are considered significant relationships? |
1. Parents/guardians 2. Teachers 3. Friends 4. Family members 5. Love interests |
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What are the purposes of relationships? |
1. Work 2. Task 3. Social |
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What are the 3 primary types of attraction? |
1. Physical 2. Social 3. Task |
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Define physical attraction |
The degree to which you find another person aesthetically pleasing (differs by culture) |
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Define social attraction |
The degree to which an individual sees another person as entertaining, intriguing, and fun to be around |
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Define task attraction |
People we are attracted to because they possess specific knowledge and/or skills that help us accomplish specific goals |
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What are the reasons for attraction? |
1. Physical proximity 2. Physical attractiveness (physicality) 3. Perceived gain 4. Similarities & differences 5. Disclosure |
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Define physical proximity (attraction) |
Commonplaces that create opportunities for people to meet and mingle |
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Define perceived gain |
We form relationships with people who can offer us rewards that outweigh costs |
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Define comparison level in a relationship |
The minimum standard someone is willing to tolerate in a relationship |
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What is the comparison level of alternatives? |
The comparison between current relationship rewards and what someone might get in another relationship |
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Define similarity thesis |
We are attracted to and tend to relationships with others who are similar to us (e.g. similar culture, ethnic, or religious backgrounds) |
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What are the 3 reasons why similarity thesis works? |
1. Validation 2. Predictability 3. Affiliation |
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Define validation (similarity thesis) |
It's validating to know that someone likes the same things we do, it confirms and endorses what we believe in |
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Define predictability (similarity thesis) |
When we are similar to another person, we can make predictions about what they will and won't like, and how they behave |
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Define affiliation (similarity thesis) |
We like others that are similar to us and thus they should like us because we are the same |
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What is a complementary relationship? |
A relationship where each person can help satisfy the other person's needs (E.g. one likes to talk and the other likes to listen, one likes to cook and the other likes to eat) |
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Define disclosure (relationship) |
Disclosure increases liking because it creates support and trust between you and another person (must be appropriate and reciprocal) |
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What are the stages of relationships (coming together)? |
1. Initiating 2. Experimenting 3. Intensifying 4. Integrating 5. Bonding |
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What are the stages of relationships (coming apart)? |
1. Differentiating 2. Circumscribing 3. Stagnating 4. Avoiding 5. Terminating |
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What are the different types of initiation? (Coming together) |
1. Sustaining (trying to continue conversation) 2. Networking (contact others for a relationship) 3. Offering (presenting your interest) 4. Approaching (directly make contact) |
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Define experimenting (coming together) |
Trying to figure out if you to continue a relationship further |
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Define intensifying (coming together) |
Sharing more intimate and/or personal information about ourselves with the other person |
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Define integrating (coming together) |
When two people truly become a couple |
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Define bonding (coming together) |
When you reveal to the world that your relationship to each other now exists |
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Define differentiating (coming apart) |
When both people are trying to figure out their own identities, engage in more disagreements |
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Define circumscribing (coming apart) |
When the partners tend to limit their interactions with each other, communication lessons in quality and quantity |
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Define stagnating (coming apart) |
The relationship is not improving or growing, motionless. Partners try not to communicate, distance themselves |
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Define avoiding (coming apart) |
Both partners avoid each other completely |
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Define terminating (coming apart) |
When the parties decide to end their relationship |
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What are the 3 strategies for maintaining interpersonal relationships? |
1. Avoidance (evade communication that might threaten the relationship) 2. Balance (maintain equality so partners don't feel under/overbenefited) 3. Direct (evaluate and remind partner of relationship objectives) |
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What are the 7 key relationship maintenance behaviors? (Laura Stafford & Daniel Canary) |
1. Positivity (communicating in happy, supportive manner) 2. Openness (focus communication on relationship) 3. Assurances (Words emphasizing commitment to duration of relationship) 4. Networking (communicating with family and friends) 5. Sharing tasks (doing work or household tasks) 6. Conflict management 7. Advice |
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What are the 4 propositions for relationship maintenance? |
1. Relationships will worsen if not maintained 2. Both partners must feel there are equal benefits and sacrifices in the relationship for it to sustain 3. Maintenance behaviors depend on type of relationship 4. Maintenance behaviors can be used alone or in mixture to affect perceptions of the relationship |
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Define relationship maintenance |
The stabilization point between relationship initiation and potential relationship destruction |
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What are the 2 elements to relationship maintenance? |
1. Strategic plans are intentional behaviors and actions used to maintain the relationship 2. Everyday interactions help to sustain the relationship |
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Define relationship dialects |
The every day pushes and pulls of a relationship |
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Define dialectical tension |
How individuals deal with struggles in their relationships |
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What are the different relational dialectics? |
1. Separation-Integration 2. Predictability-Novelty 3. Openness-Closedness 4. Similarity-Difference 5. Ideal-Real |
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Define separation-integration (relational dialectics) |
Where partners seek involvement but not willing to sacrifice their entire identity |
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Define predictability-novelty (relational dialectics) |
Rituals/routines compared to novelty |
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Define openness-closedness (relational dialectics) |
Disclosure is necessary, but there is a need for privacy |
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Define Similarity-Difference (relational dialectics) |
Tension dealing with self vs. others (couples with similar thinking communicate easier, yet if too similar they can't grow) |
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Define Ideal-Real (relational dialectics) |
Couples' perceptions of what is real may interfere or inhibit perceptions of what is real (e.g. a couple might think their relationship is perfect but from an outsider, they might think the relationship is abusive) |
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What are the different ways of managing dialectical tensions? |
1. Denial 2. Disorientation 3. Alternation 4. Recalibration 5. Segmentation 6. Balance 7. Integration 8. Reaffirmation |
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Define denial (dialectical tensions) |
Where we respond to one end |
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Define disorientation (dialectical tensions) |
Where we feel overwhelmed, we fight, freeze, or leave |
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Define alternation (dialectical tensions) |
Where we choose one end on different occasions |
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Define recalibration (dialectical tensions) |
Reframing the situation is perspective |
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Define segmentation (dialectical tensions) |
Where we compartmentalize different areas |
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Define balance (dialectical tensions) |
Where we manage and compromise our needs |
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Define integration (dialectical tensions) |
Blending different perspectives |
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Define reaffirmation (dialectical tensions) |
Having the knowledge and accepting our differences |