What We Talk About When We Talk About Love Essay

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After analyzing Raymond Carver's "What We Talk About When We Talk About Love," it is easy to see that there are several different ideas concerning true love that the characters in the story are in dispute over. Terri's idea of real love is the most valid out of the group at the table. All of the members of the group are rather confused as to what real love is. Terri is included as one of the confused. However, I believe that she is the closest to understanding what love is. A key piece of evidence demonstrating her understanding of love is her remark to Laura and Nick. She scolds the couple for basing their relationship on physical aspects, rather than emotion or passion. Terri, like the rest of the party, is on her second marriage. …show more content…
He claims to only believe in spiritual love. In his past, Mel spent "five years in seminary." This is obviously what he bases his idea upon. Mel declares that if he could go back in time, he would enjoy being a knight in armor to shield him from other people. This reveals to me that Mel is emotionally closed off and concealed from other people. Furthermore, as seen through his wife, Terri, Mel does not have the passion inside him that is necessary to experience love. The only love that Mel does experience is the love toward his children, but that is love in a different sense. Loving his children is a natural instinct. They are born into his care, and are made with his own blood. His love for them was not searched for. It just came to be when they were born. Mel's relationship with Terri, or any other women that he may have encountered in the past is distant and indifferent as to who they are inside. Mel's ideas toward love are absolutely foolish and senseless.

Raymond Carver authored a story titled "What We Talk About When We Talk About Love." The characters in the story are sitting around a table drinking gin and discussing what their opinions are about real love. All of these people seem to have a distorted view about what love is. Moreover, each one of their opinions seems to conflict with the others. I believe that Carver includes these conflicting ideas of love to illustrate to his readers a sense of urgency in finding a…

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