Combative Communication: The Art Of Listening

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The Art of Listening

Being a better listener and learning to communicate effectively without reaction. Mainly, in confrontation is the focus of my paper. Listening is key part in effectively communication. Listening and hearing are not the same thing. Listening requires focus, paying attention to what the speaker is saying, paying attention to body language. Non-verbal and verbal cues are what you must pay attention to. Sometimes, when I am in conversation I am so focused on replying to the person I am not actively listening to what the persons saying. If what they are saying is making me uncomfortable or I disagree I am immediately forming a rebuttal. This breakdown the communication and makes for combative communication. This type of communication has gotten me in trouble several times in my life. At times, I respond offensively when
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I tend to listen to everything going on around me and get distracted easily. Physical barriers make listening difficult. This can be anything from noise, lightening, room temperature, or the setting. Physiological barriers like poor health, eye sight, or pain can also make communication difficult. I can remember a few times that I have been in pain and snapped at people I was communicating with. Language and cultural noise can also be a barrier. (3) The biggest barriers for me are emotion/attitude. If I am frustrated, sad, happy, irritated, or tired I will respond based on that emotion. If I am already not happy with a person I will read emails or text messages to myself in a tone that matches how I feel about the person at the time which taints my response. This also fuels the response of the person I am communicating with and it becomes a cycle. Another barrier is assumptions and jumping to conclusions. This is also a big barrier for me. I sometimes feel like I already know the answer or what the person is going to say before I have all the

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