'Do not forsake your own friend or your father's friend, and do not go to your brother's house in the day of your calamity; better is a neighbor who is near than a brother far away' (Pro 27:10).
A GOOD FRIEND REBUKES US WHEN NECESSARY.
There are things which may need to be said to a friend that are not easy to say. I am disappointed by the sentimentalism that pervades our friendships so that we flatter our friends when we need to frankly rebuke them. A true friend is the one who is honest enough to tell us what we need to hear, rather than what we want to hear. 'A man who flatters his neighbor is spreading a net for his steps' (Pro 29:5).
If you cannot be corrected by a friend, you cannot be connected either. Those true friends that will actually connect us are the ones that will truly and sincerely rebuke us. To be connected is to be corrected. Genuine connection is as a result of genuine correction. 'Better is open rebuke than love that is concealed. Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy' (Pro 27:5-6).
Why is it, then, that we seem to think that a wife or fiancée should never criticize her husband or fiancé? Is it not better to be corrected by our closest friend than by an enemy? Sometimes the kindest thing a