Essay about Poor Listening Skills

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“Lack of listening skills affects marriages, parents and children, teachers and students, employers and employees, foreign affairs, and the list goes on” ("The Importance of Listening"). This paper will discuss how poor listening skills adversely affect interpersonal relationships. Variable listening skills will be examined through different characteristics, real-life scenarios and the improvements that could be made with tips.
Let’s explore why listening is so critical. “Adam listened to Eve. In that first spoken word message and all since, no communication occurred until there was a listener. It follows, then, that there has become a much-heightened need to listen. We must understand the fundamental relationship involved, we
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“R” refers to remembering. Remembering is the emphasis of concentration in thinking. The good habits are clear understanding that listening can be controlled because you are its MASTER.
There are six characteristics of poor listening. The first is referred to as “faking attention”. By doing this, we undertake a perception that the speaker will believe we have succeeded all of the criteria of good listening skills if we just look like a listener. This is an error in judgment because energy is required when listening. “I-get-the-facts listening” is the second characteristic of poor listening. For example, if one is presented with numerous facts and gets caught up on trying to remember the first couple of facts, then the remainder is missed as well as the whole concept that’s being presented. This is a common mistake I personally make; trying to memorize the facts, which is not the proper way to listen. Listening can be a challenge, but “avoiding difficult listening” is another mistake. Difficult listening becomes avoided when there is inexperience in using mental exertion, which leads to a lack of trying due to the inability to understand what is being said. The diminishing downward spiral of the listening ability can result from this habit. The fourth characteristic of poor listening is the “premature dismissal of a subject as uninteresting”. This is similar to “avoiding difficult listening” except the word uninteresting becomes the justification for not

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