In order to understand how each individual perceives the world, we need to have a better understanding of the other person 's point-of-view. This isn’t ever easy to fully grasp as how people see things aren’t usually what they seem. In chapter three of Looking out Looking in there are four key steps in the perception process, this is how we attach meaning to our experiences. It starts with selection, organization, interpretation and the last one is the negotiation. (Adler, Ronald B., and Russell F. Proctor. 2014 on p.78-79). It’s important to understand how being aware of our environmental stimuli and the exaggerated societal generalizations often persuade us in narrow minded biases. …show more content…
In order to fully understand the valuable insights of every person’s perception on a problem, there is a great skill builder named The Pillow Method. This Pillow Method was developed by a group of Japanese school children to build empathy. This process is a great skill builder to bring awareness that every problem has four sides and a middle. I had the opportunity to put this into practice with my husband and daughter. The challenge that we had to deal with was what university should our daughter attend. She was interested in studying either abroad or in a different province. Where for my husband and I we were more concerned that she would be better off staying local because of the costs and stresses associated with moving away. So when we implemented the pillow method process, our first position was we thought that our money matters would be priority and that we were right to have her agree to stay in the same city. She wouldn’t have to pay room and board. Her food and transportation would also be taken care of. When we switched to the second position where our daughter was right and we were wrong, it let us hear why she was interested in moving away to study else where. She expressed that she wanted to gain her ability to be independent and learn how to budget and experience a new environment. Once we reached position three we were all feeling more comfortable with each others reasoning where we were both right and both wrong with certain specifics. As for position four, it gave us all a stronger awareness on how proud we were of her having the grades and determination to want to go to any university, it didn’t matter at the end of the day which university she plans to attend. As for our daughter she was able to come out of the conversation understanding that because we loved her, we wanted the transition