I am a relatively extreme ESTJ -- extroverted, sensing, thinking and judging. People of my type like gathering solid information and making final decisions based on that information. I tend to focus more on the job, not on the people behind the job. ESTJs have the “beaver” type of personality. Beavers are hardworking, organized, and persistent. Getting things done is my strong suit. Under stress, ESTJs can become condescending and quick to judge (as anyone who's been on my bad side can attest to). That doesn't describe me under all circumstances, but it covers a lot of ground. ESTJs’ temperament is dominant Te; we thrive off rules and regulations, lots of data, and concepts and theories. Our inferior function is Fi; we don’t understand
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When we are working on an audit together, and my manager asks for open-ended input, I might try to circumvent the discussion and jump straight to decisions, which could make him irritable. Not good. I know now, for example, that my manager might be put off by my need to keep things moving along, so I should discuss and brainstorm with him a bit before I start asking for decisions. I need to tell him exactly how I've incorporated his input into my decisions, so that he can see that I was actually listening. I should also recognize that our team is strengthened by his need to look at all of the possibilities before jumping to action, and by my drive to turn those possibilities into final solutions.
I understand that two or more persons can look at the very same situation or issue with the same amount of information about it and come away with two completely different views of what happened. As it turns out, even before we knew our types, we worked relatively well together. We're grown up enough to know that we have different ways of approaching things and that both ways can lead to good work. But we now have an additional tool to help us along, especially during times of stress when things may turn emotional and could so easily go awry.
I’ve come away from this analysis having learned that it's not what you say but how you say it that might need some work. When I work with NF