But good manners do more than make the social world easier to navigate. Our "pleases" and "thank yous" show that that we're aware of dealing with another human being rather than an object. This is why poor manners can feel so offensive. It's not like a direct insult which is personal. Lack of manners offends because it's impersonal. It fails to recognize that a two-way connection is taking place and sends the message "I am not aware of you as a person".
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Abel Stevens says that politeness is the art that consists in choosing from someone's own real thoughts. Customs constitute a habit of doing definite things such as shaking hands or tipping hats. Consideration is the most significant concept behind all good manners. Very often a considerate person has good manners. Consideration has a very simple definition; it consists in thinking about the way the other people feel. Almost all good manners have a component of common sense. For example, if you are in the back of an overcrowded elevator it is neither wisely nor good manners to make an attempt to push your way through the crowd to the exit in order to get out