The Importance Of I Love You

In the same fashion, a different perspective of why people withhold from saying “I Love You” is owed to four very disconcerting causes (Grey, 2016). I am no love/relationship expert by any means, but after some research, understanding the reasons behind others ' refusal to say those three words can better help you relate to them. Such knowledge will prove helpful in many relationships of different kinds (Grey, 2016). The four causes for the absence of words or bewildering response from a person who has just heard “I love you” and does not express their love back by saying “I love you, too” are: fear, difficulty, it is not their feelings, and different expressions of showing love (Grey, 2016). By all means, everyone fears something in life whether that is snakes, spiders, or being alone in the dark, but why do people fear saying “I Love You” to their significant other? Grey states, “Fear is often a response when someone 's emotional expression is rebuffed or refused” (2016). Some children growing up may have had negative experiences when they expressed those three words and now …show more content…
Saying “I Love You” is one of many ways to express your love to someone. This being said, someone who does not say those three words in return may show their love in other ways that are not expressed verbally (Grey, 2016). Grey says, “the concept of love languages involves your ideal way of receiving love and the languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch” (2016). Expressing your love verbally may indicate your love language as affirmation whereas your partner may indicate their love through gifts and affectionate touches. The best thing to do is to communicate with your partner to understand their love language and to see if their refusal to say, "I love you" is a matter of communication, rather than a lack of love (Grey,