Importance Of Arranged Marriage And Arranged Marriages

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Till death us do part. Every married couple takes this vow, to stay with and love their partner until the day they die. But what happens if a marriage is not based on love but rather it is arranged? To this day the controversy about whether arranged or love marriages is better still rages on. But frankly, nobody has an answer because this topic is so individualized. Arranged marriages are a touchy topic that affects the lives of many parents and families. Although arranged marriages are not as common in the Western world it is still as viable of an option as love marriages. What is an arranged marriage? An arranged marriage is a union between two people in which their parents or relatives selected each other to get married rather than the …show more content…
A couple countries that still follow this practice are Iran, Iraq, Afghanistan, Japan, India, Bangladesh and other Muslim/Islamic countries. (Queano-Professor’s House) Only some countries force two people to get married, in most countries the individuals getting married have a say in the process. (Romeropereda-AFS Intercultural Programs) For example Afghanistan is one of the countries that forces arranged marriages, the consent of the two people getting married does not carry any weight. Arranged marriages are still fairy popular throughout the world and they are still a common practice in many …show more content…
Being in the Western world it is not as common to see two parties getting married for an aspect other than love. About 89% of all marriages in India are arranged. (UNICEF) In addition, about 54% of marriages in the world are arranged. Based on these statistics, individuals can see how more than half the marriages in the world today are still arranged. According to a recent survey “65% of Indian students believed that final decision on marriage should still be made by their parents”. (Huffington Post) Arranged marriages are still a commonly practiced tradition in many aspects of the

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