The Lost Child Analysis

The lost child. My middle sister is the most passive person I have ever met, this also leads to her being excluded the majority of the time. Emi will not stand up for herself, which means that her opinion is most often not taken into consideration. She is the child that gets left behind, and is alright with it. She has learned to stay out of the way and she will not get burned. At times this can be frustrating for the rest of us because her input matters, but most of the time it makes the running of the family smoother to have one less person to worry about. After everything, I still do not know exactly how she feels about the events surrounding my parents’ divorce and in some ways I am scared to ask. The mascot. My youngest sister is our …show more content…
I see the dance that happened between the dominant and the passive personalities in a relationship. Every relationship has one. How I see it through the lens of my parents’ relationship is that if you are the passive one you will get hurt and that can be catastrophic. In my own intimate relationships I have to fully commit to one personality or the other. If I am the dominant personality I am in control, like my father always was. What I say goes and there is no questioning my world. This can be troublesome because my partners never want to be controlled, and in some ways I do not always want to be in control. Conversely, if I am passive in the relationship it usually means that I am checked out or not invested in the relationship. This also does not work because I have to care enough about the relationship to make it move forward. The role I play in my family has also bled over into my relationships. I will still act as the parentified child with my partner. There is a wealth of passive aggressive anger that I will hold onto in a relationship because I am afraid of what a confrontation might lead to. Also by being passive aggressive there is less pressure on me to have to do any more work than I have to and it is left up to the other person to figure out what is irking me. Furthermore, I have a need to be in control of each situation. As soon as I lose control I risk not being able to protect myself from being hurt by my