Example Of Destructive Conflict

A conflict is an argument between two people. Conflict can have an impact in our lives. It can hurt our relationships with the people that we love. To avoid the conflict, we should communicate and try to understand the situation. Don’t let the anger, frustrations and disappointments control the conversation between the people that you have an argument with. Don’t walk away from it, try to resolve the conflict before it gets bigger. In May 2015, my daughter and I had an argument about the boy that she likes at school and the boy also likes her. When she asked me if he can come over for a visit, I told her maybe next time because I will be home late from work. When I came home that night, I found out that the boy came over. I called her and …show more content…
To characterize the destructive conflict is that my daughter and I did not talk about her so-called boyfriend because I told her that I don’t want to hear anything about the boy and that she is not allowed to go out with him. I can’t control what’s going on at school, but outside of school, I can. Pseudoconflict, because we are lacking in understanding. I told her what she wants to hear from me and no more explanation needed. I did not let her explain or talk to me about what she’s feeling. It’s a simple conflict because we have different perceptions about the boy. I told her that I don’t like the boy because he is conceited and all he thinks about is himself. As I was scolding my daughter, all he did was fix his hair and did not sense that I was mad. Of course, my daughter says the opposite about him. It’s a serial argument because our arguments happened again when she insisted that I need to talk to the boy so I can get to know him. At that time, I wasn’t ready to see or talk to him. She was asking why I don’t consider talking to him. My response to her was “No” and I am not going to talk to …show more content…
I am also withdrawing myself every time she starts discussing or telling me about him. I always tell her “I don’t want to talk about it”, but, because of what I learned from this class, I need to change my style to cooperative. I need to trust her. It is not that I don’t trust her, it’s the boy that I do not trust. I should give clear and concise directions and knowledge of what I want from her. All I want is the best for her (like all parents want). I always remind her to finish school and go to college. I even tell her “don’t be like