A: I was afraid of letting my son down. I never got sick. I wasn’t allowed to. First of all, I had a job if you don’t show up you don’t get paid and secondly, who is going to do it if I couldn’t? I had no backup, and no one to help. I couldn’t call his Dad ask him, “Hey can you take care of our son this week because I have a fever?” I had the worst car, the worst of everything. When I think of poverty it's just that…I was tough.
Q: Let's talk about the benefits of being a single mother.
A: You don't have to ask anyone else opinion. It’s so funny because I think Parenting is very personal but it's also political. My experience with men back then was taught so I wanted to rise up a tough boy; to make him a tough man. No …show more content…
A: He needs the other parent too. Every Christmas and birthday my son will crushed my heart when he asked for a dad.
I felt so damaged between being rejected by his father and by my family. Who was going to marry me and who was going to love him like I do? No, I won’t allow anyone to hurt my son as they hurt me. Also I couldn't go down to the Popstars and pick up a good dad for my son. Years later I started intellectualizing the situation saying, “Well Richard let's just say you had a dad what’s going to be?” He would say, “I will go camping with him.” I will go “You camping with Boy Scouts.” Then he will say, “Well, we can go to the park and play catch.” “But we don't really do that.”
Oh God, I was working so hard to make sure that he missed nothing. I had him in boy scouts. He also played soccer, tennis, basketball, never football, too dangerous. Look at the football uniform. I didn't want my son to become a gladiator. However, he was so funny. After spending the night at a friend's house, he would always come home with the report of how the dad was, “Well last night was fine... you know… his dad is really nice but he yells a