Zaigen Observation

This week I spent some time observing a 5-year-old boy named Zaigen while I visit taught his mother. He is an only child so I brought along my three boys ages 8, 4, and 4 so Zaigen fell right in the middle. I watched them play at Zaigen’s home which might account for some of the behavioral traits I saw. While watching the boys play I noticed that while Zaigen was excellent at sharing he was only willing to share if my boys played how he wanted them to play. For example, they were playing with a fire truck and a couple of monster trucks and Zaigen insisted on them being driven on the road he made. When one boys took his truck off the road Zaigen immediately took the truck away from him. Another thing I thought was worth mentioning is that he didn’t talk much, if at all. He made grunting noises and motions to show what he wanted and his mother would chime in and communicate for him. As I talked to his mother, Jamie, and watched them play I would classify him as a difficult child …show more content…
She never raises her voice at him or spank him. She was firm in explain why he had to do something and she didn’t give into his tantrums, she just let them play out. One thing that would make him easier to parent would be to have a set schedule so he knew what to expect next which would cut down on his tantrums. During my visit with Zaigen and his mother I was able to get a good idea of how wide the temperament spectrum is. I have a child who I would classify as a difficult child and I have one I would classify as slow to warm up and neither of them acted the same way as Zaigen. They all are so different in manifesting their temperaments meaning that every parent has to adapt to their special child, and there is no one right way to parent. What would work for my difficult child would never work for Zaigen and vise versa. The most important thing we can do as parents is to parent with love and