Women Not Having Children Is Normal

Why Women Not Having Children is Normal

Gabrielle Moss is a 32 year old women woman, who works as an associate lifestyle editor for Bustle Magazine in New York City. She lives a fulfilling life with her partner in the Big Apple. Gabrielle can relate to women all over the country with the type of questions she and every other woman have been asked in their lifetime. “When are you going to have kids?” and “How many kids are you going to have?” Gabrielle’s response to these type of childbearing questions are “I don’t plan on having children at all.” People look at Gabrielle with a flabbergasted expression, as if a woman not having a child is considered a social disappointment. Many people believe all women should follow the expectations of society …show more content…
Sheer confusion from people who are attached to the traditional idea of ‘mother’ as a woman’s primary identity is considered a motivating factor for child-free women. Society leads all women to believe that motherhood has a ritualistic power to transform a girl into a woman and give your life meaning. Children give some woman’s life meaning, but not all women. Women who grew up in the suburbs are especially raised to believe to believe that themselves and every other women should have children of their own. These young women growing up in these communities legitimately do not know women were allowed to not have kids. They believe having kids is a thing everyone has to put up with. It is not a woman’s moral duty to procreate. Not having children is similar to an abortion stigma. In that when people take charge of their own reproduction system, it often can make others frown upon you. People often say, “Oh, you’ll change your mind when you get older” or “Just wait till you get married, then you’ll want kids.” Many women were told this at young ages when they officially chose not to have children, it has been ten or possibly twenty years, and these types of women still haven’t changed their mind. The ingrained expectation expectation that women should desire to become parents is unhealthy. Many people are close-minded and naive to the fact that you can live a fulfilling life without children. People label …show more content…
They have led very successful lives without the need of children. Whether you call it the “childless” life or going “child-free”, it represents a demographic shift. The common questions from childbearing people are “Who will take care of you when you’re older?” and “What is the meaning of your life without children.” Children are not meant for taking care of their parents when they’re older or doing household chores. Child-free people are often seen as selfish for not bearing any children of their own, but the truth is, everyone is selfish in their own way. For example, when you go to Starbucks and buy a latte instead of donating that money to charity, your making a selfish decision. The idea that the only way to be self-less is to have kids, and that’s not true. There are plenty of ways to be a good citizen and contribute to society without bringing a child into the world. The bottom line is, every women has their own personal thoughts and ideas. Whether is choosing to opt out of having children or choosing to have children, it’s their personal choice. A woman’s reproductive system has no reason whatsoever to be everyone’s business in whether children will be created or not. We as a society should respect a woman’s choices in life. Every woman should feel safe expressing their own thoughts in the type of patriarchal society we live in today. The idea of having a