Why Men Still Can T Have It All Analysis

When the question comes, as it often does, we say we have no preference in whether a baby is born a boy or girl. In private, just us, we talk about the pros and cons of each gender. We talk about which would have more advantages or who would have an easier life in today’s world. According to author Richard Dorment, “the comparison is a toss-up or even a draw. In today’s society, it is impossible to say that a boy or a girl has any conspicuous advantages because of his or her gender”. In his 2013 article, “Why Men Still Can’t Have It All”, Dorment responds to “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” by Anne-Marie Slaughter and reflects how often times, life can be harder for men than women. The inflexibility of men in the workplace, parenting and …show more content…
“Men are being judged as fathers now in a way that they have never been before” says Dorment. Just as women are historically new to the workplace, men are new to carpool and negotiating these fresh expectations. Not only do working fathers from dual-income homes spend just as much time at work as their fathers and grandfathers did (all while putting in many, many more hours with kids and chores), they also spend more time at work than non-fathers. Seven hours more a week, according to Pew, a trend that Galinsky has noticed in her own research. Now think about this. How are men that ask for family viewed versus when a woman asks for family leave? Men who ask for time off or find reasons not to attend work are often viewed as weak or incapable. This ties in with the flexibility of men and results in men being obligated to work dreadful hours at work, along with being an involved father at home. It is common for women to take maternity-leave during pregnancy and take weeks away from work with no worries. Dads, however, are a different and more complicated story. In California, the first state to fund up to six weeks of paid leave for new moms and dads, only 29 percent of those who take it are men, and there have been numerous studies lately exploring why more men aren't taking greater advantage of the ability to stay home. The general consensus is reflected in a paper out of Rutgers …show more content…
Although women take on the huge task of raising children and keeping a whole household under control, men’s lives are deprived of their work. Women are often given the option to be a stay-at-home or work a full-time, while men have their entire family depending on their financial success. Outside of work, they still have to try and keep their loved ones satisfied as one wrong move or decision can drastically change how they are looked at. While women complain they can’t “have it all”, men are balancing the two of the most difficult task that one could hold. Although never taken into consideration, gains by women are sometimes losses by men and demands by one are attacks on the other. It is nearly impossible for men to make as much as they want financially while keeping their family the happiest they can be. According to Pew Research on facts about American fathers, many of today’s fathers find it challenging to balance work and family life. About half of working dads (52%) say it is very or somewhat difficult to do so, a slightly smaller share than the 60% of working mothers who say the same. And about three-in-ten working dads (29%) say they “always feel rushed,” as do 37% of working mothers. In result, working fathers are also about as likely as working mothers to say that they would prefer to be home with their children, but that they need to