The article, “Why is my 5 year old unhappy?” written by psychologist John Rosemond I feel reflects on a question many parents ask themselves today. Rosemond is a bit controversial in his advice on parenting, tending to reference his own experiences growing up. As a parent and a member of the same generation as he is I can relate to some of his theories. The article stress how a parent of a five year old is concerned because is trying to give his only son everything he wants to make in happy. In return, he gets a moody child who has difficulty getting along with other children. He is a seemingly ungrateful, non- communicative child who is not thankful for anything he has received. The parent is worried that there may be signs of a chemical
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I too felt that my son was the center of my universe and torn between the decisions to return to work when he was an infant did burden me with guilt. I believe children should be the center of their parent’s universe and know that they are loved and safe and supported. My son, a 20 year old college junior, knows that we were hard working parents and we always gave him what he needed. If there was something special that he wanted or a special occasion he was taught to earn it. To this very day my son has never asked for anything unless it was something he needed. This is not to say that I did not buy him things through the years, because it made me happy to see him filled with joy, but he was always grateful. I believe this article will be of interest to parents because it shows how we always want to do the best for our children, but happiness doesn’t come with owning something, it is a feeling that comes with knowing you were cared about and it made you feel good. Spending time with a five year old, going for a walk and talking or driving in a car or just playing with him will be better than flourishing him or her with …show more content…
In the article the mom and stepdad are dropping their daughter off at college and mom expecting to be emotional saying goodbye to her daughter finds herself in control and it is the step dad that is having difficulty with his emotions. As a parent who felt the same way when my only son went off to college, I could relate to this article. Wanting him to have all the experiences that college life offered and become independent. As the summer before his freshman year was coming to an end, we shopped for the things he would need. “We” meaning he came along for the ride to the store. I with my compulsive manner had to have all things that were color coordinated for his room. His last year in high school was a very busy year. He was involved in many activities that kept him away from the home until late in the day. This separation possibly helped with my adjustment. The summer before he left was very similar, he was in another play and working. When it was the day we had to take him to Boston I wondered how it was going to be. I had my moments of feeling sad as I helped him pack and clean out is room. As we dropped him off that day in the organized chaos of freshmen awkwardly saying goodbye to their parents, I remember that embrace. It was an embrace that said so many
I too felt that my son was the center of my universe and torn between the decisions to return to work when he was an infant did burden me with guilt. I believe children should be the center of their parent’s universe and know that they are loved and safe and supported. My son, a 20 year old college junior, knows that we were hard working parents and we always gave him what he needed. If there was something special that he wanted or a special occasion he was taught to earn it. To this very day my son has never asked for anything unless it was something he needed. This is not to say that I did not buy him things through the years, because it made me happy to see him filled with joy, but he was always grateful. I believe this article will be of interest to parents because it shows how we always want to do the best for our children, but happiness doesn’t come with owning something, it is a feeling that comes with knowing you were cared about and it made you feel good. Spending time with a five year old, going for a walk and talking or driving in a car or just playing with him will be better than flourishing him or her with …show more content…
In the article the mom and stepdad are dropping their daughter off at college and mom expecting to be emotional saying goodbye to her daughter finds herself in control and it is the step dad that is having difficulty with his emotions. As a parent who felt the same way when my only son went off to college, I could relate to this article. Wanting him to have all the experiences that college life offered and become independent. As the summer before his freshman year was coming to an end, we shopped for the things he would need. “We” meaning he came along for the ride to the store. I with my compulsive manner had to have all things that were color coordinated for his room. His last year in high school was a very busy year. He was involved in many activities that kept him away from the home until late in the day. This separation possibly helped with my adjustment. The summer before he left was very similar, he was in another play and working. When it was the day we had to take him to Boston I wondered how it was going to be. I had my moments of feeling sad as I helped him pack and clean out is room. As we dropped him off that day in the organized chaos of freshmen awkwardly saying goodbye to their parents, I remember that embrace. It was an embrace that said so many