Reflective Essay: The Perfect Husband

Why is marriage so difficult? As I sat at home alone on a crisp winter day, reclined in my favorite chair with the fireplace on to warm my chilled feet, I asked myself this question a thousand times. The silence in the room was deafening. The ticking of the clock on the wall, as each second passed, seemed to get louder and louder. Heat radiated from the vibrant fire burning in the beautifully stone crafted fireplace, yet I felt so cold. I had always imagined myself as an amazing husband who delighted in serving and loving his wife. Was I really that selfish and self-absorbed? My goal, from the moment that I committed myself to my gorgeous wife, was to become the best husband that I could possibly be for her. Starring up at the sterile white …show more content…
The author, a happily married middle aged man, is also a marriage counselor with ample marriage experience. His writing is so confident, full of truth, and direct. It was as if he was writing this book specifically for me. Words turned into pages and pages turned into chapters. Every ounce of me was tuned into the articulate writing before me. As I read what it means to be a husband and what my role is supposed to look like, I first felt such shame and guilt. Determined, I cautiously moved on and soaked the words in like a sponge. Eventually my negative feelings began to change to feelings of hope and excitement as I began to see the possibilities of what I could become in my marriage. I suddenly realized that I was not alone and that this book was written for many other men just like me who were struggling to fulfill their role in the marriage. The key to becoming the husband I desired to be was to transform the words on the page into actions in my …show more content…
It was like a second honeymoon with a newfound love that neither of us had experienced before. As I selflessly loved my wife and treated her with unconditional love, our relationship grew stronger by the day and a solid foundation formed. We began to really enjoy time together and we learned why marriage was considered a gift from God. The more I invested into my wife, the more she invested in me. It soon became a competition of trying to outdo each other and prefer the other over yourself. The most amazing aspect of this new connection was the fact that I was much happier than when I was selfishly looking out for my own interests. And to top it all off, I became a true leader in our home, leading with love and devotion instead of selfish