I will benefit in studying to be a counselor because of the many difficult relationship experiences in my past. As a man raised in the Christian faith that subsequently entered the fitness industry, I have firsthand experience with the trials of temptation and sin and how they affect relationships. The “Glory of the Lord is My Strength”, was one of my favorite hymns growing up. Yet I often ignored those words, and consequently wasted a lifetime by relying primarily on my own abilities, strengths and rationale, in making life-decisions that would inevitably cause destruction, extreme loss and suffering. Rather than waiting on the Lord for his perfect timing and purpose for my life, I routinely became impatient and chose my own direction. I
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Even though I had pushed the Lord away, He still met me where I was and gave me the words to encourage healing of their marriages. Now that I’ve allowed God to consume my heart, completely, I will be pursuing family and marriage counseling as my new career. As a A benefit of being a personal trainer, a benefit has always been that I’ve had to at least look fit. With an attractive physique, is has always been easy to meet and attract women. In fact, I received the “best body” award as both a 15 year old sophomore and 17 year old senior in high school. Unfortunately, my physique became my identity and replaced the Lord more and more the older I became. I was able to attract my three wives based on my physique and looks, and was “surprised” when troubles began. I’ve always sought out to find the perfect girl/woman. Since I can remember, I dreamed of being married and having children. Every time I met someone, I would try to envision them as my wife, a life-long partner and mother. But as soon as the relationship started, I would begin pushing the limits of intimacy while still holding onto faith as a Christian. Inevitably, with God out of the picture, the relationship would deteriorate and …show more content…
Optimistic bias unrealistically allowed me to justify my hasty decisions by hoping to change them into loving Christian wives. “Trying to love without first receiving God’s love is like trying to water something with a hose that’s disconnected from the faucet,” is a favorite quote of mine, describing the difficulty of being unevenly yoked in a marriage where one spouse hasn’t yet received God’s love. And by “receive,” I am referring to their decision to receive God’s love. God’s love is perfect, 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7, and unconditional. Worldly love is conversely conditional and easily falls prey to lies, deceit and manipulation. I seemed to work backwards, in my pursuit of these women’s attention. In order to search these particular women out, my three wives out, I had to intentionally remove God’s covering and direction. Then , I would begin to invite God back into my life, and expect Him to change them. Is it any wonder these women resent me to no end? My second wife, and the mother of my two children, went as far as to send me repeatedly to jail for a multiple of reasons. In my impatience and selfishness, I was not only hurt, but I hurt others as well. My two children, Taylor my daughter, and Liam my son, have been kept from seeing me for over nine
Even though I had pushed the Lord away, He still met me where I was and gave me the words to encourage healing of their marriages. Now that I’ve allowed God to consume my heart, completely, I will be pursuing family and marriage counseling as my new career. As a A benefit of being a personal trainer, a benefit has always been that I’ve had to at least look fit. With an attractive physique, is has always been easy to meet and attract women. In fact, I received the “best body” award as both a 15 year old sophomore and 17 year old senior in high school. Unfortunately, my physique became my identity and replaced the Lord more and more the older I became. I was able to attract my three wives based on my physique and looks, and was “surprised” when troubles began. I’ve always sought out to find the perfect girl/woman. Since I can remember, I dreamed of being married and having children. Every time I met someone, I would try to envision them as my wife, a life-long partner and mother. But as soon as the relationship started, I would begin pushing the limits of intimacy while still holding onto faith as a Christian. Inevitably, with God out of the picture, the relationship would deteriorate and …show more content…
Optimistic bias unrealistically allowed me to justify my hasty decisions by hoping to change them into loving Christian wives. “Trying to love without first receiving God’s love is like trying to water something with a hose that’s disconnected from the faucet,” is a favorite quote of mine, describing the difficulty of being unevenly yoked in a marriage where one spouse hasn’t yet received God’s love. And by “receive,” I am referring to their decision to receive God’s love. God’s love is perfect, 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7, and unconditional. Worldly love is conversely conditional and easily falls prey to lies, deceit and manipulation. I seemed to work backwards, in my pursuit of these women’s attention. In order to search these particular women out, my three wives out, I had to intentionally remove God’s covering and direction. Then , I would begin to invite God back into my life, and expect Him to change them. Is it any wonder these women resent me to no end? My second wife, and the mother of my two children, went as far as to send me repeatedly to jail for a multiple of reasons. In my impatience and selfishness, I was not only hurt, but I hurt others as well. My two children, Taylor my daughter, and Liam my son, have been kept from seeing me for over nine