The Importance Of Personal Identity

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I crave company. It’s how I’ve always been. I want to feel welcome, needed, accepted. I don’t think that’s wrong or unusual. All throughout my life, I have always needed to be surrounded by friends, or at least people who pretended like they were. I always felt that I needed to have plans on the weekends, be invited to the cool parties, fill my yearbook up with signatures, and keep up with or surpass my friends on their number of Facebook followers. However, looking back now, I’m not sure I like how I used to go about staying in these social circles. It is so important to have an identity that stays consistent to oneself, though it is much easier to conform to a group in order to fit in. Im middle school I hung out with the popular kids. We hung out by the tables in the back of the blacktop, were invited to all the parties, and were considered ‘cool’. This, however, was not me. My friends from elementary school were the ones who began hanging out with this group, and I just kind of followed, like a lost …show more content…
I hear an idea that I like and I run with it. I have to say, it has worked out pretty well for the most part and created some exciting stories. One day my best friend, Paige, and I were on the phone with her mom who was telling us about her coworker who was getting married that night not too far from my house. My eyes lit up upon hearing this; what an adventure it would be to go crash a wedding instead of sitting at home watching movies all night like we had planned. And as a matter of fact, it was! Sure, no one else understood my reasoning of why it seemed like a good idea. I didn 't care though, that was another thing that I realized; I really couldn 't care less what others thought of me! What a comforting feeling that was, the moment I stopped trying to conform into something I was not, i stopped caring. I know I’m different, that has always been clear to me, but it’s nice to not have to worry about what others see me

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