I Hate Sex: A Bisexual Analysis

Sex is an uncomfortable topic for me. I do not know if it is because I have been sexually assaulted multiple times since I was 3 or it is because of how I grew up. I feel like it is taboo to say I hate sex. Does this make me asexual? I lost my virginity to my boyfriend after a year of dating. Prior to my current boyfriend, I dated an individual for three years and we did not have any sexual interaction. My ex-boyfriend got frustrated and cheated on me. I ended that relationship right way. I was raised in a Christian home, where waiting for marriage is a must. My current boyfriend just does not know that I do not like sex; even before I had sex for the first time I hated it. I hate sex to the point I lied to my boyfriend that I made a convent to God that I will wait to marriage. Now, he feels guilty that I broke my “covenant” with God, which makes me guilty because I lied to him and I cannot just bring it to myself to tell him I hate sex. …show more content…
The politics of sexuality is about who has the power in sexual relationships. One gender is assigned the power in a sexual relationship and that is the male gender or whoever acts masculine in a gay or lesbian relationship. In a heterosexual relationship, why is it a bad thing for a woman to be independent financially and in her decision making? The woman is seemed to be controlling and told to be the one to wear the pants in the relationship. Why can’t both the male and female wear the pants in the relationship? In the textbook, it states, “heterosexuality is organized in such a way that the power men have in society gets carried into relationships and can encourage women’s subservience, sexually and emotionally,” (Shaw and Lee, 2015). This means that women have to be dependent on men and they always need the approval of men. Women have to work outside the home and tend to men’s needs by being sexual, preparing him meals and taking care of his