The Importance Of Close Relationships

Putting the end in friends is easier than we would like to imagine. While we understand how and why close relationships fail, most of us refuse to accept the reality that such a heartbreaking moment could happen in our life, or even worse, be our fault. Relationships of any kind - romantic, platonic, or otherwise - can be emotionally deadly, especially to the one who stands closest to the flame. With the proper attitude, distance, and naiveness, you can end a friendship with the least damage possible. The most important attribute you must carry is a passively caring attitude.Your will friend initiate the process by contemplating a radical, life-altering decision, and your equally radical decision to, in the wise words of Snoop, “drop ‘em …show more content…
It will not seem like that at first; she might ask you to help her with online classes, and you will agree to help her make the best out of the pit hole you let her fall into, but you should be prepared for disappointment. At first, when she had asked me to help with studying for her GED, I was eager to assist; I firmly believed she was not going to fall victim to statistics. She was trying hard to make something of herself despite the hardships she endured prior to dropping out as well as the new obstacles and repercussions afterwards. It will start off smoothly, planning a week in advance for the upcoming study sessions. However, an aggravating cycle of planning/ “rain check”/ rescheduling will begin week one. It will start with “I have to work a double at the store,” and “I feel sick, maybe next time?”, but eventually the excuses will stop, as will the planning, and you will not be surprised- you will be tired of playing her game by then. My plan b’s became plan a’s because the likelihood of me flaking out on them was barely rivaled by the slight chance the study dates would become a reality. The lesson here is just because you are motivated to help fix your friend’s life does not mean she is ready to take responsibility of the mess she has managed to walk herself into, and …show more content…
No matter how vast your period of silence last, eventually she will rebound back to her most valued resource- you. Much like a trapeze artist and the thin webbing of nylon suspended mere inches from the ground, with I being the later, she would fall fast, flailing her fists in last ditch efforts to grab a hold on her reality. Not until she realizes that Rock Bottom is her final destination will she depend on you to catch her. I have caught her every time and I wish I could honestly say that I will continue to catch her. But constant misuse and neglect causes irreversible damage. So, as time goes on, the holes in your trust, your dependability, and your friendship will grow bigger and bigger and it will be your responsibility to retire yourself as the safety net; the relationship has grown toxic for you both. It is time for you to go separate