Some parents and caretakers have difficulty with saying “ no” to children when it comes to t getting a child to do what is expected of them. In many cases, the child will try to take over a situation by acting inappropriately, taking tantrums, and testing limits with parents and caregivers. Therefore, no matter who in caring for the child must be consistent and have similar goals in order for the child to become familiar with what is expected from them despite feeling uncomfortable with limit setting. The parent and or caregivers must be able to redirect the child when their behavior is not acceptable in order to help the child grow into responsible people. This is one reason why children need structure and guidance in order to become well
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If children are free to do whatever they want they will adopt the idea that rules are not important and they will not respect rules and the people who are responsible for enforcing those rules as well as learning how to behave in society. Therefore, children must know what is expected of them when it comes to their behavior when someone is caring from them regardless of the fact that the people that are caring from them, might have their own way parenting due to their own up bring and family traditions. This is the case in “Who’s Irish” when Sophie’s grandmother was talking with her stated daughter regarding how Chinese children are brought up and informed her that ”she had never took her clothes off when she was little, and all her Chinese friends had babies and never saw one of them act wild like that “ (Jen, 1998, p. …show more content…
When it came to parenting our children (when they were younger). My husband had taken on the role of the authoritarian parent in which he was somewhat strict when it came to rules and expectations of our children. These rules were often without questioning and had to be followed. Some of the rules were, no talking back, respecting parents and each other. This type of parenting was similar to Sophie’s grandmother style of parenting regarding family values. This type of parenting was due to my husband own upbringing and being from a different culture and background from myself. However the parenting style that I used was more of a democratic style in which I gave more choices in order to them to learn about making appropriate choices and learning about consequences for their
If children are free to do whatever they want they will adopt the idea that rules are not important and they will not respect rules and the people who are responsible for enforcing those rules as well as learning how to behave in society. Therefore, children must know what is expected of them when it comes to their behavior when someone is caring from them regardless of the fact that the people that are caring from them, might have their own way parenting due to their own up bring and family traditions. This is the case in “Who’s Irish” when Sophie’s grandmother was talking with her stated daughter regarding how Chinese children are brought up and informed her that ”she had never took her clothes off when she was little, and all her Chinese friends had babies and never saw one of them act wild like that “ (Jen, 1998, p. …show more content…
When it came to parenting our children (when they were younger). My husband had taken on the role of the authoritarian parent in which he was somewhat strict when it came to rules and expectations of our children. These rules were often without questioning and had to be followed. Some of the rules were, no talking back, respecting parents and each other. This type of parenting was similar to Sophie’s grandmother style of parenting regarding family values. This type of parenting was due to my husband own upbringing and being from a different culture and background from myself. However the parenting style that I used was more of a democratic style in which I gave more choices in order to them to learn about making appropriate choices and learning about consequences for their