my grandmother
It is hard for me to really pinpoint any one person in my life who has had the most influence on me. I can think of many teachers, family members, and even a work manager who have all given me important pieces of advice or were great examples to me. If I were to try to weigh each of those influences against each other and say which of them was truly the greatest influence in my life. After carefully thinking about it and who I am and what is important to me in my life, I guess I would have to say the most influentual person in a very intrinsic way is my grandmother.
My grandmother definitely was not the most loving person in the world. She was always very busy, rushing around the …show more content…
I, of course, told her I was sure her mother loved her. But I could not think of one thing my grandmother had ever said or done that I could use as evidence of this for my mother. It made me really sad and is a moment that still haunts me to this day. I think my own life, although centered as it is around my children, needed this important insight into a child 's need for their parents ' approval and love, and need evidence and reassurances of it whenever possible. How unbearably sad that my mom never believed or felt that her own mother loved her. I try every day to remember while I am busy and rushing around, as a single mom even trying to work 40 hours a week and sometimes overtime, and keeping a home, and getting my children to and from school, doctors ' and dentists ' appointments, and shopping, etc., that I remember to sit with them and express my love, even if it has to be just words or small gestures most of the time. I want them to know that I love them with all my heart and everything I do is for them so they will succeed in this world and be strong people. And I remember from my grandmother 's example that no matter how much you sacrifice and try to make strong people out of them, if you forget to take the time to let them know you love them, they just might not know. Unfortunately, no amount of success or strength can replace their need for their parents '