When Perfection Is Not Perfect Analysis

When Perfection Is Not Perfect The desire for a life of perfection may not only provoke people to assume a higher position in a social hierarchy, but it may also demand people to compromise their beliefs, as well as, who they are as people. Charles de Lint says, “We’re so quick to cut away pieces of ourselves to suit a particular relationship, a job, a circle of friends, incessantly editing who we are until we fit in.” Compromising beliefs and lifestyles are not uncommon for many who think that the way to achieve perfection is by being accepted by the people at the top of a social hierarchy, or popular group of people. Many times as a result of insecurities, people falsify themselves based on not only their words but their actions too. …show more content…
The only outcome of not being accepted is rejection. Because the brain can be blamed for the need to be accepted, it can also be the blamed for the feelings after rejection. With rejection can come other problems such as emotional pain and even physical pain. Kristen Weir says, “As far as the brain is concerned, a broken heart may not be so different from a broken arm.” According to Weir’s article, “The Pain of Social Rejection,” researchers found that the pain of being excluded, or rejected, can be similarly related to the pain from a physical injury after studying the source of rejection. Dr. Nathan Dewall from the University of Kentucky says, “The need for acceptance is deeply rooted in our evolutionary history and has all sorts of consequences for modern psychological processes.” Through these such researches, understanding that rejection is more serious than many believe may allow people to have more compassion for those who are upset after being rejected. Another Doctor at the University of California, Kipling Williams, says, “Knowledge may not take away the pain, but at least you know there’s a reason for the heartache.” For some people, knowing they are not crazy and their brain is to blame for repercussions after rejection is very reassuring; however, as Dr. Williams says, the pain is still not taken away. As stated earlier, rejection can cause problems for people dealing with emotional pain and physical pain. When it comes to the emotional state, the typical tendencies for people who have been rejected include sadness, loneliness, depression, anger, and even numbness. In Kathy Benjamin’s article, “5 Reasons Teenagers Act The Way They Do,” scientific tests have proven that women, especially teenagers, overuse their emotion controlling part of the brain called the amygdala which causes a misinterpretation of