When I Won T Research Paper

There is a distinct difference between the words “can’t” and “won’t.” When it comes to working with children, many people, myself included, may be using the words interchangeably when we should pay more attention to the student. It’s easy for an educator or parent to say that “he won’t listen” or “she won’t do her work.” Since I am an educator, and more specifically, an intervention specialist, I see parents coming in all the time, saying “my child won’t do anything I tell him to do,” or “she won’t listen to me.” I have even caught myself saying the word “won’t.” We need to look more closely at the student and see if we are using the wrong conjunction. Maybe, “he can’t follow your directions because you told them to fast” or maybe, “she can’t do her work because she doesn’t understand what you are asking her to do.” We need to be more clear with what we are asking students. …show more content…
The overall goal of any parent or educator is to see the child grow as an individual emotionally, academically, physically, mentally, and so on. We cannot “look only backward into what-might-have-been,” we need to look “forward into possibilities yet unexplored” (Notbohm, 2012, p.61). Emily Perl Kingsley says it best in her story about having a child with a disability when she wrote, “But if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things about Holland” (1987). Kingsley is referring to Italy as having a “typical child” and Holland as having a child with disabilities. If you brood too much about not having a “normal” life, you will miss all the wonderful opportunities and experiences that go along with your