According to most people we had failed. My team and I had just lost our first game that season and everyone was frustrated. The game had been close and physical, but still we had played unusually well for ourselves. As we sat silently in the locker room waiting for our coach to come in I glanced around at my disappointed teammates. Sullen looks were painted across nearly every face and I even saw a few tears that were quickly brushed away. Strangely enough, I did not share the gloomy mood that so greatly affected teammates. Yes I was disappointed that we had lost, but I also knew that we had given our best effort. The other team had more skill and better, more talented players than we did. Still, my teammates seemed to assume that by losing
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I realized at that moment that my teammates believed that they had failed, and, in turn, that they themselves were failures. Whereas, I believed that because I had worked my hardest, even though we lost, I was successful. This experience helped me to understand that the way I defined success would affect the way I looked at life.
I quickly realized that I also found my self worth in different places than most of my teammates did. They found worth in what they did and in what others thought of them. I, on the other hand, find my worth in who I am and in who created me. This means that my self esteem does not rely on me being approved by others and it gives me the ability to be free of social pressures such as fashion and popularity.
I am blessed enough to know who I am and why I am here. I am no longer defined by my successes and failures, because I put a different definition on the meaning of the words. By judging myself based on my effort and not the outcome I do not have to feel like a failure. Without this perspective, my priorities would end up backwards and I would be striving for successes that do not matter. To change your results you must first change your definitions. If you do, you will discover that you succeed more often than you
I realized at that moment that my teammates believed that they had failed, and, in turn, that they themselves were failures. Whereas, I believed that because I had worked my hardest, even though we lost, I was successful. This experience helped me to understand that the way I defined success would affect the way I looked at life.
I quickly realized that I also found my self worth in different places than most of my teammates did. They found worth in what they did and in what others thought of them. I, on the other hand, find my worth in who I am and in who created me. This means that my self esteem does not rely on me being approved by others and it gives me the ability to be free of social pressures such as fashion and popularity.
I am blessed enough to know who I am and why I am here. I am no longer defined by my successes and failures, because I put a different definition on the meaning of the words. By judging myself based on my effort and not the outcome I do not have to feel like a failure. Without this perspective, my priorities would end up backwards and I would be striving for successes that do not matter. To change your results you must first change your definitions. If you do, you will discover that you succeed more often than you