“What stays in the Family” is a memoir by Lorna Crozier about a secret that she hid throughout her life. Her father was a drunk. Not only does she have an alcoholism father, but also have a manipulative mother. From a young age, Lorna Crozier suffered profoundly from her mother’s pragmatism. She was warned to keep her father’s issue a secret, since then, Crozier endured the guilt of tricking people, and the shame was torturing Crozier every single day.
Crozier’s mother was a small-town woman who believed that “what went on the family stayed in the family and was no one else’s business”. She had the pride of woman to held her head up high, in spite of the poverty and her husband’s irresponsibility. “She almost have to beg” when every time …show more content…
She was lying to every person in her life and hiding the existence of her father. She expressed “My father’s drinking was such a disgraceful thing that it couldn’t be talked about”. The stress even became an “invisible disease with no name” that trapped Crozier in dilemma. She lied to her friends not to come over to her house when her father was on toot. No one knew the real reason why the Crozier family walked everywhere when they had a car. It was because her dad was “too inebriated to drive, or he’d already lost his license”. Unbearably, he did not even attend Lorna Crozier’s graduation ceremony when she was the valedictory and her parents were meant to sit with the school principal.
“You’re not good enough to read, publish, teach, write, pass those exams, get those promotions, win those awards. I’m going to tell everyone how dumb and bad you really are. I’m going to tell everyone where you come from” was spoke loudly in Crozier’s pareidolia. Inside Crozier’s mind, she was very self-conscious of her family’s working class background and was ashamed of her poverty. When she went back to her hometown as a teacher, she returned with her husband’s name, not her father’s. Most of her co-worker did not even know who her father
Crozier’s mother was a small-town woman who believed that “what went on the family stayed in the family and was no one else’s business”. She had the pride of woman to held her head up high, in spite of the poverty and her husband’s irresponsibility. “She almost have to beg” when every time …show more content…
She was lying to every person in her life and hiding the existence of her father. She expressed “My father’s drinking was such a disgraceful thing that it couldn’t be talked about”. The stress even became an “invisible disease with no name” that trapped Crozier in dilemma. She lied to her friends not to come over to her house when her father was on toot. No one knew the real reason why the Crozier family walked everywhere when they had a car. It was because her dad was “too inebriated to drive, or he’d already lost his license”. Unbearably, he did not even attend Lorna Crozier’s graduation ceremony when she was the valedictory and her parents were meant to sit with the school principal.
“You’re not good enough to read, publish, teach, write, pass those exams, get those promotions, win those awards. I’m going to tell everyone how dumb and bad you really are. I’m going to tell everyone where you come from” was spoke loudly in Crozier’s pareidolia. Inside Crozier’s mind, she was very self-conscious of her family’s working class background and was ashamed of her poverty. When she went back to her hometown as a teacher, she returned with her husband’s name, not her father’s. Most of her co-worker did not even know who her father