What Is The Reason For Your Unhappiness Essay

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What is the Reason for your Unhappiness?

It’s perfectly normal to feel unhappy at times. It happens to everybody. It’s also likely that you could be doing some things that are having a hand in making you feel unhappy. You may not even notice that you’re doing them. Check the list below and ask yourself every now and then, “Am I doing this?”

1. Thinking of the Worst

If you catch yourself thinking of negative thoughts about someone or a circumstance before knowing the real story, then you might be presuming the worst. One example would be is when your husband didn’t call at the time that he said he would. You suddenly go into thinking that he may have been involved in a car crash or he’s with a younger woman and that he already left you.

People who are happy tend to think of the best in any situation. They don’t make negative deductions or think that something
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It’s not easy, but you have to accept that you can only control your own actions. Let go of your need to control things and don’t let these uncontrollable things to disturb you. You will soon realize that you feel much better.

8. Not Being Yourself

Loving yourself is one of the most vital things in life. So love yourself for who you are. It doesn’t mean that you can’t try to be a better person by doing random acts of kindness, learning a new language, or exercising gratefulness. It only means that you must stop trying to be someone else. Just be yourself including all of your imperfections that make you who you are.

If you are tall, don’t think that you should have been shorter.
If you are quiet, don’t think that you’re supposed to be louder.
If you have brown hair, don’t think that you should have been blonde.
Acknowledge your value and love yourself.
If you’re starting to feel unhappy, ask yourself if you are doing any of the eight things mentioned above. If you do, then stop immediately and you’ll soon be feeling better in no

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