Adult Attachment The ability to step back and reflect on one’s experience in life and with others can be a profound and enlightening moment. There have been several distinct times that have occurred within my thirty-two-year-old lifespan, in which I have worked hard to examining the outcomes of different life experiences that were not only individual, but also involved other people. While there are different areas of one’s personal life to look at when dealing with attachment, Bartholomew and Shaver (as cited in Broderick & Blewitt, 2015) said it best when they stated, “various forms of adult attachment arise from a continuous but branching tree of attachment experiences, beginning in infancy and developing throughout the life course,” (p.
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One of the things I have learned in sobriety is just how few true friends I had gathered over the years. Adding to peer relationships, romantic relationships were very similar. I gave very little of myself, and did not allow people in. In discussing both peer and romantic relationships, a strong cause of this emotional isolation was due to not feeling “good enough.” Mili and Raakhee (2015) stated, “in people with high attachment anxiety, they have the constant fear of losing their partners, fear of abandonment, fear of getting cheated and not being good enough for their partners,” (p. 120). My body image issues had a lot to do with the distance I placed between both myself and romantic partners. Furthermore, fear of rejection kept that distance maximized, as I did not want to end up in a relationship like the relationship I witnessed of my parents. Outcome results from Mili and Raahkee’s study confirms that individuals with low self-esteem avoid intimate interpersonal relationships …show more content…
Anytime there is an assignment, especially any form of assessment, I attempt to answer honestly in order to gain the most from the exercise. In taking Fraley’s Adult Attachment Survey, I was not very surprised by the results. In the area of attachment-related anxiety, I scored a 4.78 on a 1 to 7 scale. In the area of attachment-related avoidance, I scored a 3.94 on a 1 to 7 scale. Per the survey, I fall in the preoccupied region. The assessment results stated, “previous research on attachment styles indicates that preoccupied people tend to have highly conflictual relationships. Although they are comfortable expressing their emotions, preoccupied individuals often experience a lot of negative emotions, which can interfere with relationships,” (2016,
One of the things I have learned in sobriety is just how few true friends I had gathered over the years. Adding to peer relationships, romantic relationships were very similar. I gave very little of myself, and did not allow people in. In discussing both peer and romantic relationships, a strong cause of this emotional isolation was due to not feeling “good enough.” Mili and Raakhee (2015) stated, “in people with high attachment anxiety, they have the constant fear of losing their partners, fear of abandonment, fear of getting cheated and not being good enough for their partners,” (p. 120). My body image issues had a lot to do with the distance I placed between both myself and romantic partners. Furthermore, fear of rejection kept that distance maximized, as I did not want to end up in a relationship like the relationship I witnessed of my parents. Outcome results from Mili and Raahkee’s study confirms that individuals with low self-esteem avoid intimate interpersonal relationships …show more content…
Anytime there is an assignment, especially any form of assessment, I attempt to answer honestly in order to gain the most from the exercise. In taking Fraley’s Adult Attachment Survey, I was not very surprised by the results. In the area of attachment-related anxiety, I scored a 4.78 on a 1 to 7 scale. In the area of attachment-related avoidance, I scored a 3.94 on a 1 to 7 scale. Per the survey, I fall in the preoccupied region. The assessment results stated, “previous research on attachment styles indicates that preoccupied people tend to have highly conflictual relationships. Although they are comfortable expressing their emotions, preoccupied individuals often experience a lot of negative emotions, which can interfere with relationships,” (2016,