Languages of Appreciation Raymond Noe (2013) defines psychological success as the “the feeling of pride and accomplishment that comes from achieving life goals that are not limited to achievements at work” and that “psychological success is more under the employee’s control than the traditional career goals” (p. 368). The belief that employees should feel appreciated without affirmation is a historical concept that modern society is altering. Regardless of the organization in which people work, the type of work they do, their gender or age, all employees have a desire to feel appreciated and valued at their place of employment. According to Doctors Gary Chapman and Paul White (2010), a common misconception by managers is that approximately
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Leaders can identify team members in which this language would work best by noticing who likes to socialize and spend time with peers, friends, and team members. Although quality time may seem like the most inconvenient language, it can be the most sincere. There is nothing more compelling than a leader taking valuable time away from a task to spend a few minutes talking to a team member and actively listening. Quality time helps the employee feel appreciated, valuable, and an integral contributor to the organization’s success. Gift giving is the third language of appreciation and most employers would be surprised how a small token of appreciation can be of immeasurable significance to a team member. In order to ensure that gifts are meaningful and portray genuineness, a leader must listen and observe their employees to take into consideration their individual likes and dislikes. Presenting the same gifts to all employees or giving gifts without regard to individuality can encourage a perception of voided …show more content…
This language is of little or no monetary value, but to the employee that appreciates in this language it would be priceless. Society raises children from a very young age to treat others the way you would want to be treated. For employees in which acts of service show appreciation, it is important that a leader, first, does not impose an unwelcome service. If the employee does not want the assistance, do not force it. Forcing an act of service will come across in an inconsiderate manner. Ensuring that the act of service is welcome and performed in the manner in which the employees would perform it themselves, are key to portraying this appreciation in the appropriate manner. A little help can go a long way! The fifth and final language of appreciation Chapman discusses is physical touch. Many employers and employees are wary of physical touch with current regulations on sexual harassment and cases in the media. It important to recognize that some employees’ language of appreciation may be a hug or a literal pat on the back. As a leader, this appreciation language can be recognized and acknowledged; however, company policy and the established relationship between the employee and employer dictate the level of comfort regarding appropriate physical
Leaders can identify team members in which this language would work best by noticing who likes to socialize and spend time with peers, friends, and team members. Although quality time may seem like the most inconvenient language, it can be the most sincere. There is nothing more compelling than a leader taking valuable time away from a task to spend a few minutes talking to a team member and actively listening. Quality time helps the employee feel appreciated, valuable, and an integral contributor to the organization’s success. Gift giving is the third language of appreciation and most employers would be surprised how a small token of appreciation can be of immeasurable significance to a team member. In order to ensure that gifts are meaningful and portray genuineness, a leader must listen and observe their employees to take into consideration their individual likes and dislikes. Presenting the same gifts to all employees or giving gifts without regard to individuality can encourage a perception of voided …show more content…
This language is of little or no monetary value, but to the employee that appreciates in this language it would be priceless. Society raises children from a very young age to treat others the way you would want to be treated. For employees in which acts of service show appreciation, it is important that a leader, first, does not impose an unwelcome service. If the employee does not want the assistance, do not force it. Forcing an act of service will come across in an inconsiderate manner. Ensuring that the act of service is welcome and performed in the manner in which the employees would perform it themselves, are key to portraying this appreciation in the appropriate manner. A little help can go a long way! The fifth and final language of appreciation Chapman discusses is physical touch. Many employers and employees are wary of physical touch with current regulations on sexual harassment and cases in the media. It important to recognize that some employees’ language of appreciation may be a hug or a literal pat on the back. As a leader, this appreciation language can be recognized and acknowledged; however, company policy and the established relationship between the employee and employer dictate the level of comfort regarding appropriate physical