This is pretty common amongst girls and happened quite frequently in High School, having friends who dislike people (most of the time for good reasons) and as a “good” friend you should dislike them too for whatever drama they caused your friend. Case specific, having a best friend who’s boyfriend dumped them for another girl, when this girl knew they were dating and wiggled her way in. Being a good friend you automatically make judgements on her, because she hurt your friend and she clearly can’t be a good person if she did that and there is no reason for you to like her. But then you’re hanging out with a group of friends and said girl is there. My immediate reaction would be cold-shouldering her because I dislike her for what she did to my friend. But then over the time of hanging out you realize that she’s nice, considerate, really funny, and likes a lot of the same things you do. This has now caused me some discomfort or inconsistency to my precious ideas that I had, better known as Cognitive Dissonance. For this situation, a way that I reduced cognitive dissonance was be to acquiring new information that outweighs the dissonant beliefs. After hanging out with the girl, I was able to freely like her because in my head she wasn’t the nasty, boyfriend stealer but instead my thoughts were that she was a nice girl, who was …show more content…
An example of this is a time I went river rafting in intertubes with my friend and her family. We thought that it would be a lazy river trip in the intertubes on a slow river because all the parts we could see from the road were just like that. We were having a blast, it was sunny out and we were relaxing on our tubes and just enjoying a nice summer day. But behind one part of the trees that you couldn’t see from the road there was a very fast, scary, rapid. As we went over that rapid we all got torn apart and to different parts of the water. As I was able to get to a point in the river that I could stand I noticed that I could not see my friend’s head anymore. In this moment, without concern for myself I trumped back towards the more dangerous part of the water as i walked around and dug around to see if i could find her, I bumped her free from where she had been pulled under and her chin had been lodged and she couldn’t get out. It was a no- brainer for me, I couldn’t see my friend and even though it wasn’t safe I had to find her and make sure she was okay, I could have gotten hurt and then it would have been both of us stuck, but I didn’t think about it I simply just did it and because I did she was able to get free and we’re both here to tell the